Does anyone else feel guilty when....

[bluebell82]

you call in sick.. I feel like I have been plagued with illness this pregnancy.. was signed off for a week in July due to a show.. had two daysoff last month with migraines- stress related the doctor wanted to sign me off and I refused.. and now I am laid up because the LO has wriggled onto a nerve and I can not stand up or sit down with crippling pain!

All my sickness has been documented and is backed up by doctors records but I feel guilty.. I used to worry about the safety of my job but recently work have struggled so much to get rid of someone it made me realise that you can't just get sacked these days for sickness it would have to be dealt with via HR.. because usually I would be sitting here stressing I didn't have a job to go to tomorrow!

I am 25 weeks by the way.. I feel like such a bad person but just can't pysically sit at my desk today for 10 hours!... thats another thing I work 8am-6.30pm.. nice

talk about a self pity party- sorry!

Not about calling in sick to work... but just wolfed down a large pack of chocolate ginger biscuits and I think I'm going to feel both quite guilty and sick about it.
...Waddles off in her 23 week gone bottom.

Hi Bluebell

I know exactly how you feel! I was signed off for two weeks in August due to a haematoma that caused pain and bleeding and then on Friday I fell down a flight of stairs and they're concerned that I have fractured something in my lower back, lots of bruising also. However, I've used all my sick leave and am always made to feel guilty so I'm still here at work, in lots of pain and fairly out of it on codeine. Plus, because I've used all my sick leave I have to take unpaid leave if I'm off sick.

It's rubbish and if you find a way to alleviate the guilty feeling do let me know. I work 8:30 - 6pm with an hours commute and it's hideous so I completely empathise with you.

sigh

Rant over - sorry bluebell, didn't mean to hijack. Couldn't help joining in the self pity party. At least we can be confident that we have our delightful jobs as it is fairly difficult to sack anyone for sickness, especially pregnant ladies!

Hope you feel better soon and try and enjoy your rest. It feels better to just put all down in writing sometimes!

hi claphamlauren- how dreadful - i haven't even thought about sick leave days I think our policy is managers discretion. I have worked for my company for 5 years and been a model employee until I got pg.. but you have to put your baby first, have you been checked out by the doctors/hospital? You should really be in bed resting x

Don't worry about it. You always feel guilty when you ring in sick (trust me, I've just done it) regardless of how much you love or hate your job!

I've been struggling into work for the last two weeks because I didn't think a cold and headaches were worth taking time off for. Now the midwife has recommended I take a couple of days off to rest so I can shake this virus off. I argued the point with her, about how it's only a cold, but she was adamant that you should rest when you feel tired and run down. Either I take two days off now for a bit of R&R, or she said it was likely that in a week's time I could be signed off for 2 weeks by the doctor if I didn't get this under control.

I think sometimes you need someone else to point out the common sense of taking a few days off rather than running yourself into the ground and having to start mat leave early.

bluebell82- you are not alone, there are lots of us feeling exactly the same way you are! I'm 28 weeks and have a lot of pelvic pain and a pregnancy-related hernia (no-one mentioned that in the guide to being a yummy mummy), and struggle to get to the end of the road, still more to stagger into work on a bus and a tube and then sit on the most uncomfortable chair in the world for eight hours. I really want to go to work though, because my brain is fine and frankly bored at home. At the moment I'm going in every other day, which is bearable (just- there's a bit of crying in the toilet at lunchtime but mostly I just get on with it). It's taken me a while to get used to, but we are not bad people, we are growing a baby for goodness sake!!! (and I bet there are people in your office who are taking time off sick who are not half as incapacitated as you).