20 week scan panic

[Sowalk]

Hi all,

At the start of the year my husband and I went through a missed miscarriage. I fell pregnant quite quickly again after and despite a couple of bleeds early on (apparently the cause of a low lying placenta) I am now 19 weeks and everything seems fine and has been fine for a good while. Baby has always measured correctly for the dates (in fact baby measured little further along than I estimated), and all the scans have been positive.

Now I am approaching my 20 week scan I can't help but begin to feel worried/panicky about it. I (probably stupidly) looked at the issues they are scanning for and am now so worried that something awful is going to come up in the 20 week scan. How likely is this to happen? Am I worrying myself for no reason? I think I just can't really feel excited about scans like I wish I could as I have had to have so many with my last pregnancy that didn't end positively...

Thanks in advance!

@Sowalk Bless you ❤️

I know what you mean about being worried something is going to go wrong at the scan. I'm 21 weeks and I've had 4 scans in total (2 private so my husband could be there and the 2 NHS ones).

I was very anxious in the run up to each one. I couldn't sleep properly because of it, I'd think up of all sorts or 'what ifs?' and I was just generally very stressed out about it.

I'd had a very pleasant pregnancy so far with no morning sickness and the only main thing was severe constipation. I was convinced something had happened to the baby and would cry often as I was so worried.

Each scan was absolutely fine and we still have a perfectly healthy baby cooking as she should 😊

Try and distract yourself. Do you have any hobbies you could do? Stay off Google too - that gave me so many negative thoughts!

Sending you a big hug!

My heart goes out to you. I too had a MMC and I know how they then effectively ruin any subsequent pregnancy. It’s totally normal to be anxious. I was seriously stressed all the way through my pregnancy that followed my MMC, but all was fine and I’m now sitting with my napping 5 week old 😊 I had to have extra scans and I came to hate them as they made me so anxious. I was convinced I was going to get bad news every time.

I can’t tell you your scan will be fine, because none of us know, but have faith knowing that the stats are in your favour and just because something bad happened last time, doesn’t mean it will again.

All the best with the rest of your pregnancy xx

Thank you for your responses!

I'm definitely not googling anymore! I've got no reason to worry as in every scan baby has been a good size, wiggling and healthy. But I think scans just fill me with dread now due to past experiences.

I've just got to try and keep myself positive as there's not much I can do until next Friday! I'm just praying everything is fine! 😬😬

Thank you again! Xx