High risk - appointments

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Hi Everyone,

I'm a high risk pregnancy due to a previous late miscarriage at 21 weeks.

I'm now 12 weeks pregnant (confirmed at my dating scan) and have my first appointment with the consultant this week.

I was just wondering if anyone could provide me with some information as to what to expect and what I should expect the appointment to entail?

I presume it's to discuss a plan of care moving forward?

Thanks!

They'll ask you lots of questions about previous pregnancies and then discuss care plan moving forward. Good luck x

@Grumpy19 thanks - I'm really really not looking forward to the discussion of my past pregnancy. That'll be hard.

I'm hoping to try and encourage as much care as possible this time. I'm just feeling so nervous as I don't know what to expect x

It will be difficult to talk about your previous experience but try to think of it as giving them as much info as possible to get a positive pregnancy experience this time.
Don't be scared to tell them exactly how you feel and that you expect a higher level of care. X

Hi OP, I'm 5 weeks pregnant after losing my daughter at 18 weeks last year. They're offering me a stitch

@Grumpy19 I think it's just going to be so hard as I struggle to talk about it and my husband can't be there due to covid so speak for me when I'm unable! Good point about pushing for as much as I can. Thank you x

@WatchingWithDisinterest I'm sorry to hear about your loss, but huge congratulations! I'm really sorry for being ignorant (and you don't need to discuss if you don't want to) but can I ask what you mean by a stage? Did you go into premature labour?

Would it help to make some notes with your husband prior to the appointment, then if you are finding the appointment difficult you could hand that over?

I had an appointment for being high risk but because of a preexisting condition. We went through the risks associated with my condition and what they can do to support they can put in place to manage my pregnancy and birth.

You could ask the consultant whether they would mind if you video called your husband. Its helpful so he can ask questions you forget and he can listen. When I'm stressed or upset, I forget a lot of what's said to me in the moment. My husband has a really good memory so when I saw Drs I would always ask to video call and no Dr ever had an issue with it. Good luck op x

@Superscientist so sorry for ignoring your reply, I really like this idea. I mentioned it to my husband and he also said we should write down all of our questions also so that we font miss anything. I know I'll be in a huge fluster and probably just sit nodding and agreeing!

I think mine is quite different in the sense that we had a full post mortem and there was no obvious cause, which initially seemed like a positive to me but I think now I've had my scan and all is "ok" it's making me worried again as last time everything was "normal".

Thanks for the help

@MrssC92 so sorry - I got side tracked with my eldest last night and rudely forgot to reply!

This is a good idea actually - but given he's not allowed to attend due to covid he won't have the time off work (he is a manual worker so can't even log into a zoom from office/home).

This is exactly what I do too - I kind of zone out and just agree with what's being said without really thinking of what questions I have. I think we're going to write up a list so we don't forget anything.

Thank you for your wishes x