12 week scan nerves

[JemimaTiggywinkle]

Please tell me your happy stories about 12 week scans where everything was just fine.

My scan is in a few days and the wait has felt never ending. I’m just scared that something will be wrong.

A friend has just found out that her baby is not viable and she has decided on a termination. I was already worried before.. but clearly that news hasn’t helped.

Also getting mixed messages about partners.. my letter said no partners but midwife said they were allowed now... so he’s going to come along and see if he gets chucked out.

Also to add to the stresses it says to drink 2 pints of water an hour before... with the amount I’m weeing at the moment I don’t think I’m going to be able to hold that amount of water!

Just had mine and it was fine - partner was allowed in and I think trust your midwife on that, I think most trusts are now allowing partners in.

If your bladder is too full they just ask you to go and half empty it, then come back in, so if you're dying and about to wee yourself before they call you, just have a half wee and you'll be grand. X

Thank you. Glad yours went well.

Hi @JemimaTiggywinkle ,

After having three chemical pregnancies and a missed miscarriage, I know how nerve wracking every scan is. Doesn't help to hear about other people's stories when so close to home.

But I've just had my rainbow baby who is almost a month old now , every scan I was holding my breath.

In regards to having your partner there, best speaking to the hospital.

Everyone is different but just make sure you have drank water and not have just emptied your bladder and you should be alright.

Good luck and let us know hoe it all goes !

Did you use to be jemimafuddleduck?? Love the Beatrix potter theme 🤣

I previously had a 12 week scan where no heartbeat was found so find the 12 week particularly stressful - it took us another 7 pregnancies and 5 rounds of IVF to make it that far again and mine went well and I'm having twins! (Although knew about the twins before that!)

I also had a friend who had bad news at her scan with a much longed for IVF baby and it also added to the anxiety

Please be reassured that the % of good news given at these scans is much higher than bad news. Good luck for your scan!

Mine is on monday. I'm 42 so I'm nervous.

@ivfbeenbusy I’m afraid that wasn’t me! Amazing name though. Congratulations on the twins :)

Wishing you luck with the scan! Awaiting it is truly nerve wracking. There's really nothing you can do if something's wrong, it is what it is, but it's easy to feel very irrational while waiting. The best thing you can do is keep thinking that statistically, you have good chances for everything to be just fine.

I felt extremely scared and irrational waiting for my 20 week scan even though everything turned out to be fine at 12 weeks. Before 12 weeks scan back in February I was actually totally relaxed, and then bam! The night before the scan I started bleeding like crazy. Fresh, red blood gushing, out of nowhere. My heart stopped, I was absolutely sure that's it, my baby is gone. The scan showed a haematoma on my placenta and a healthy baby totally unconcerned with the bleeding happening above his head! I'm holding a healthy, happy 4 week old right now, so everything unfolded in the best way possible

Just to give you a happy story, I’m 41, had bleeding earlier on, went to 12 week scan alone feeling v nervous and everything was fine. Screening results fine. Baby all cute and wriggly.

Had mine on 31st august and it was amazing! I understand your nerves as I have had two recent miscarriage and some spotting early in this pregnancy. My scan couldn't have gone better, I was so happy 😀
My husband was also with me, so it was a lovely experience. Good luck and enjoy it.