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Hello everyone. Forgive this rambling, I just needed to sort my thoughts

I'm ten weeks pregnant, due in June/July and my partner/boyfriend has just announced he doesn't want baby. Says it'll stop him living his life and seeing his friends that he hardly sees at all. And now he sees them even less because the whole country is in lockdown. He suggested an Abortion a few days ago. But the idea is terrifying me, I'm scared of needles and pain. I dont like Doctors and Im worried I'll regret it. I'm only young, I'm not giving my age out because I know a LOT of users on here are so judgemental and rude they'd make a Nun blush.

I've kicked boyfriend out for suggesting an Abortion. To which he kicked up a damn fuss, acting like it was his place - It's mine. He's been grumbling and groaning that I wont be able to afford rent when he's the one who moved in with me. I just know he'll go running straight to Mummy then she'll stick her nose in (She always does. I swear she enables his behaviour, she coddles the life out of him and doesn't understand why I dont do the same. But what she fails to realise is I've been living alone for a while)

Im not really looking for answers, I just needed a place to put my thoughts out. I'm always lurking on this site because my friend introduced it to me - If anyone reads this, hello. If not, that's okay

Sorry do you not mean you'll be due in April/ May?!?!?

You honestly need to decided what you want to do for yourself. If he won't stick by you if you have the baby then you need to be prepared to go it alone and not rely on him xx

Hope you're ok lovely. It much be such a hard decision to make but it's your body, not his - you're the one who has to either carry the baby or have the abortion - so it's your decision. Have you got friends / family you can talk to about this?

I'm 10 weeks and I'm due in early-mid April... Have you had your booking in appointment with a midwife? You will need that soon as if you are 10 weeks you will be due your first scan in the next couple of weeks and often the midwife will set that up.

Regardless, I would make sure you have enough to live on alone - make sure you will be able to still meet rent when you are on maternity pay. Have you looked at your employer's maternity pay policy? Babies can be very expensive in some ways (but breastfeeding & buying/being given second hand clothes etc can help keep things cheaper). Childcare can also be extortionate when you go back to work. Basically, you will need to start saving a lot now.

Will you have good support? Do you have any friends/family who've had children in the last few years? Friends and family that live nearby and would be willing to look after a baby for a couple of hours so you can get some sleep/have a shower?

It will be incredibly hard being a single parent, but it's the reality for a lot of people.

The choice is yours. Not his. Not anyone else’s.
I was 19 when I had my first son and it was hard but I managed. I was with his dad until he was 1 year old, but his dad never once helped so I was used to coping alone anyway. It was hard going back to work, etc. But if you think you can do it, then go for it.

Do not let anyone decide for you. I let a man do exactly that to me, take my decision away, and it ended in a horrific suicide attempt. He didn’t even stick around after.

Consider your options. Also bear in mind that if you do want an abortion, you are already over the limit for medical (tablets) and would need a surgical removal.

My inbox is open if you need a friendly face to chat to 💝

Sorry you’re going through this.
Boyfriend aside, you need to despise whether you want the baby.
Personally I wouldn’t want a relationship with someone so unsupportive. Take care x