2 weeks until 12 week scan...need hand holding please

[KeepSmiling89]

Hi everyone
So...15 days until 12 week scan. It's been a long wait already since my booking appt mid-August.
Other than light spotting yesterday, nothing to be concerned about. Spoke with the midwife today about spotting and she said that because there's no pain and its stopped now, there's nothing to worry about. However, she acknowledged that we won't know anything for sure until the scan and there's nothing I can do to stop anything from happening.
For some reason all thats going through my head is the possibility of an MMC. What if our baby stopped growing at some point? What if this nausea has all been for nothing?

DH keeps telling me to stop stressing as I've been given advice by the midwife and doing everything I should be doing but I can't help it. I need hand holding from any other mums who might know what I'm going through. This is my first pregnancy and there's no reason to suspect an MMC but I just keep worrying.

Hi @KeepSmiling89 it's normal to worry, don't beat yourself up for it (your DP is giving good, supportive advice,
he's not in the wrong either).

Have you joined one of the due month threads here? It might help to see what others are going through at the same time.

I'm due in March, the thread has been full of stories of spotting and coloured discharge but most of the time it's totally OK. All the online pages say spotting can be a normal pregnancy symptom too.

Look out for the colour- bright red needs a call to MW. Spotting after sex can be from the cervix being soft. I've seen some people speak of spotting around when their period would be due.

Keep strong, sounds like you're looking for what's best which is a sign of a great mum 💐

Thanks @Thack I'm not worried about spotting or bleeding really as I know to contact the midwife of anything like that happens. It's more not being in control of anything happening even without bleeding...like a MMC that won't be seen until the scan.
Don't seem to have any nausea today which is a nice relief but I'm worried as well as I've read about stories where it was a sign that the baby stopped developing at some stage.

I am on a thread for women due in April which is nice to look at for info and support too.

Hi @KeepSmiling89 I'm in the same boat - 3 weeks until scan. I have been so sure since I found out that I have had some form of MMC. I cant base it on anything (first pregnancy, never had any problems or losses) other than having very mild (if any) pregnancy symptons. I know its not particularly helpful to dwell on it and some days am really upset. So not much helpful advice other to say that I feel the same too. Just counting down the days and trying to stay positive

Can you go for a reassurance scan, I dont know how things are working at the moment, but it was the best £80 I ever spent after a MMC

@KeepSmiling89
I totally understand your anxiety.
This is a time where you are powerless and you just have to trust your body to do its job.

In normal life i like being prepared and in control and to know and understand everything, but if there is something pregnancy has taught me is that it's not one of those things i can control. I have to let go. Learn patience.

Try to keep positive thoughts. Because worrying won't change the outcome unfortunately...

In december i was pregnant and constantly waiting for the bad news to come (too much reading on MN). I was so so so worried all the time. And eventually got the bad news.
This time i am 11w and despite the anxiety that comes after loss, i have forced myself to trust the process. To cherish each day regardless of what will happen.
I am still counting down the days until my 12w scan (next week). I acknowledge that mmc is a possibility but it stops there. I am waiting to go and see my baby, that's what i keep thinking.

It's a tough time and i hope you are able to remain positive for the next two slowest weeks 😊 x

I'm 10 weeks also and from 4 weeks to 8 weeks I suffered really bad abdominal cramps so much so I decided to go for a reassurance scan at 6w6d I got to see my little beans heartbeat and it reassured me that it was viable and in the right place it cost £70 but it was well worth it. All my symptoms disappeared 2 weeks ago except the sore boobs which concerned me but midwife reassured me it was probably my body gotten use to the hcg hormone and it was a good sign I still had sore breasts. If you are worried then there is no harm in going for a private scan xx

@SunnySideUp2020 thanks! And thanks to everyone else for your lovely words of support.
I've calmed down a bit. We could do a private scan but I realise it won't change the outcome of the 12 week scan and there's no medical reason for it now.
Going to trust the midwife and let mother nature take its course. What will be will be. Will obviously contact maternity unit if I have any more bleeding or pain though.

Just gotta get through the next 2 weeks!

@SunnySideUp2020 also so sorry to hear about your loss 💐

So, after my more positive/realistic outlook on the situation yesterday...I broke down in tears speaking to my midwife today.
Unfortunately no medical concern for me to be sent for an early scan but she did reassure me that everything seems normal for now and to just sit tight until the scan in 13 days...
Felt like a right idiot but she was so lovely and supportive of how I was feeling. Didn't make me feel like I was overreacting or anything.

@KeepSmiling89 it happens. Those pregnancy hormones can really make us feel so overwhelmed. Good that she listened to you though, it always help to have a supportive midwife! It will be ok 👌
Really try to stay positive... sending good vibes ✨🙏💕