FTM- Not excited at all

[Charlotte2020]

I'm currently 14+3 and still not that excited about having a baby. It was planned and I'm happy, I don't know if it's because although there's plenty of symptoms I'm still too early for a bump or movement. I feel like I have to pretend I'm more happy around people (inc healthcare staff!) as they squeal and say "you must be SO excited". Tbh it's just getting me a bit down! I'm quite an introvert and everyone being more happy than me is just making me feel a bit meh!
Anyone else had this? Or am I just a bit dead inside?!!!

I think it’s totally normal to feel this way - your still in the early feeling crappy and no bump or anything to connect with. I got more excited as time went on but some people just aren’t gushing when pregnant and that’s fine - it’s bloody tiring at times!

I think I spent most of it in a daze- I will probably be more excited next time as I know what’s to come! For me from 20 weeks onwards was more enjoyable! Good luck x

I’ve had loads of emotions with my pregnancies but I wouldn’t name excited as one. Apart from the negative vomiting, bored, grumpy etc I feel content, happy, blessed, loving, nesting. All mostly later on in the pregnancy. Maybe I’m just not excitable too, I feel like it’s an emotion for kids at Christmas rather than me. I don’t feel excited on my birthday either.

I wasn't excited (still not 😬) and didn't really get into the whole pregnancy until after my 20 week scan when I knew baby was all good and I could actually start buying things for baby.
I'm currently 37+6 and it's only the last month I'd say that I've started to look forward to baby coming. Still wouldn't say I'm 'excited'
But I think that's because I'm fed up and want him out! 🤪
Everyone has been flipping out with joy over my pregnancy and I'm just like 'meh'! It's weird because he was planned and we cannot wait to meet him and complete our little family, but I was never excited about getting pregnant and even though I've done very well in my pregnancy, for the most part, I won't be doing it again! 🤪🤪

@Charlotte2020 I wouldn't worry too much, I'm 24+2 with twins and I don't feel remotely excited about it yet, I'm sure I'm still not convinced I'm having them (despite the bloody huge bump making me the size of a house!) I already have an 18 month old and there wasn't exactly a plan to have more let alone twins. So I don't know if that has factored into it.. I think it's just a really strange time at the moment and I know it's what people say to anything for now but I honestly think cause life isn't exactly normal right now nothing feels normal covid related or not if that makes sense.
Congratulations on your pregnancy I'm sure the excitement will come along at some point! (I am hoping so for me too!) X

I know what you mean. I'm quite a private person and being pregnant puts me in the spotlight more than I'd like. I do want this baby but being pregnant is uncomfortable and boring. I'm not excited to be pregnant either. I'm 19 weeks and the baby has just started kicking, which has been lovely and makes it feel more real.

Thank you for your replies it makes me feel better and a bit more normal- glad to know not everyone is like a maternity advert! I think once the 20 week scan is done and we can start prepping a bit more I'll be a bit more excited, at the moment I just feel tired and a bit fat. Doesn't help that the midwife lightly suggested I was depressed because I wasn't all excitable about pregnancy. I felt like saying "you try being excited with 24/7 nausea etc!" 😆

I was exactly like this at the beginning, I'm currently 33 weeks.

It's tough as you feel like an imposter when everyone else feels so much more excited than you do!

It's good you've recognized your own feelings, don't push yourself and eventually you will be excited.

It might be when you're feeling better, when you feel baby move, when your bump grows etc it's different for everyone. Just keep speaking and being open.

I'm 30 weeks and honestly still wouldn't describe myself as 'excited' - everyone else keeps saying "omg how exciting" and I'm like "yeah, sure"
I still can't really make the connection between the kicks I feel and the baby being an actual human person ... which means I might get a shock when it's coming out of me ;-)
I'm not really worried though - I'm just not an overly excitable person and I am looking forward to being a parent (and, you know, crapping my pants at the responsibility and sleep deprivation). Obviously keep an eye on your overall mental health but I think it's normal not to be "excited" (if it's not normal, don't tell me - I am happy as I am) :-)

I’m 12+ 3 today and had the most horrendous sickness, been in hospital and unable to leave my bed from July until now. I’m starting to feel better but have never been excited, I’ve literally been trying to survive each day I couldn’t think of anything else. I have my scan coming up so looking forward to getting that done and hopefully I can get excited about things. Also I have a suffocating MIL who is buying everything and anything which is great, but also very annoying as I’m not getting to choose what I want and losing out on the excitement of buying things!