Possible miscarriage 11 weeks

[BeeKeeping]

This last week has been hell. Long story..but it’s cathartic to tell..

Started bleeding on Thursday, went into hospital on Friday- they guddled about, couldn’t find my cervix, wouldn’t scan me, did bloods which were low but normal, said it was probably all fine and sent me home.

Saturday still bleeding and now some pain, went back to hosp and demanded a scan- which they did do, it wasn’t detailed as done by dr not sonographer but able to see the pregnancy- measuring 11 weeks with a heartbeat. I felt so elated, we had plans to see friends so started driving to them. On the journey started getting severe pain, doubled over agony, lots more blood. Took painkillers, bought maxipads, kept going. Planning a lie down when we got to them.

When we got there they were dancing to Steve wonders happy birthday blaring (I've just turned 30) and had made me a birthday crown. One of the most bizarre moments in my life, bleeding and in agony... but also laughing and smiling and dancing .. anyway...

Had lunch etc went for a walk then... passed tissue. Called hosp- they said it was the start of a miscarriage and to prepare for worse overnight. Came home as obviously didn’t want to be having a miscarriage overnight at their house.

Since passing the tissue I felt much better in myself, no cramping etc. Passing lots of blood and some large clots but nothing that resembles an 11 week miscarriage... I still feel pregnant 😔🤷🏻‍♀️

The hospital won’t scan again, as my detailed scan is next Wednesday. But I’m living in limbo. Everyone medical says it’s not possible to pass tissue and maintain a healthy pregnancy. But you hear crazy stories sometimes. And do miscarriages just stall?! I’m just finding it really hard to picture. Odds of miscarriage after seeing a heartbeat at 11 weeks are tiny, less than 1%. Googling all sorts..

Going for repeat bloods with midwife today, and will beg her to try and doppler.

I know that no one will have the exact experience- but wondered if anyone had passed tissue and still maintained a healthy pregnancy? Or had a miscarriage which started then stopped? Thanks

Could you book a private scan maybe to see a more detailed scan? So sorry your having to go through this and be stuck in limbo :(

Thanks both. Just been to see the midwife for bloods she did try and find the heartbeat for me but couldn’t find one. The private scan options are all about an hour away, I’m scared of the drive there and back especially as it’s likely to be bad news. A part of me is holding on to the denial until next week. I just can’t get my head around it at all. Seems so surreal.

@BeeKeeping if she couldn't find a heartbeat then she should have referred you for another scan, the care for pregnant women is shocking atm!

I know - I feel so frustrated. I think from a medical perspective they’ve decided it’s a miscarriage and that a scan next week will show whether it’s complete or not. They don’t really care that I’m still holding out and hoping and that a scan now would put my mind at rest and help me to come to terms with what’s happened.

It’s only partly because of corona- miscarriage is not deemed a medical emergency.

At 11 weeks is unlikely there going to find a heartbeat with a fetal Doppler

It’s very difficult situation I have been where you are went for a private scan and it was not good news I had lost mine and then went on to pass the pregnancy 2 days later I travelled 38 mins to a clinic

Everyone medical says it’s not possible to pass tissue and maintain a healthy pregnancy Yes you absolutely can pass tissue/clots and still have a viable pregnancy. I had a haematoma and had enormous bleeds with the biggest clots I've ever seen. I'm now almost 29 weeks and baby is fine!
Apparently haematomas are not uncommon.

You won't hear a heartbeat with a doppler at 11 weeks though. Midwives won't even attempt to listen until at least 16 weeks.

Just an update: bloods came back and are down to almost pre pregnancy levels- 400. Which confirms that I had the miscarriage on Saturday. Feeling grateful that the worst of the physical part is over but still not emotionally recovered yet. Really sad that it happened in a petrol station toilet and that I didn’t get to see the fetus to say goodbye. So dirty and undignified.

I'm pleased to have an answer and to not have to go for medical management or surgery which would have been the next steps. Can't believe it happened so quickly. I don't think they'll scan on Wednesday- they've just asked me to wait 3 weeks then take a pregnancy test and if it's negative then we're all clear.

Thanks for all the comments and support xx

I am so sorry to read this @BeeKeeping