I just found out today that I'm pregnant. My period was late and I finally did a test, and when it was positive, I did another one which was also positive and indicated 1-2 weeks.
I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, but this is where things get tricky.
I don't want to go into too much detail, but basically, my boyfriend is in the middle of a criminal investigation? I think you would call it.
He's out on bail currently, and because of covid, it'll be a few years before he goes to trial. I have no idea if he'll be convicted or not obviously.
We can't live together because of this, but I'm trying to move to him so that we can be together.
Obviously a baby is going to make things way more complicated, and I'm really scared to tell him. I think he's going to say it's bad timing and that I shouldn't keep it, but I'm not really sure that's what I want.
I haven't made up my mind yet, but I'm worried that if he does go to prison in a few years, it'll really have a bad effect on our child (whether or not he wants to be involved). It's bad enough that it'd be growing up with no father if he doesn't want it, eventually the child would find out that their father was also incarcerated. This isn't something I'd be able to keep secret because eventually they'd be old enough to use the internet and they'd find out unless I refused to tell the child it's own father's name, but that seems like an awful thing to do.
I guess I just feel really conflicted because things are already a mess, and having a baby will make it way more complicated, but it's also a really hard decision to not keep it. I've had an abortion before and i don't regret it but it was when it was with the wrong guy, and i do feel like now I'm with the right guy but the circumstances are bad.
I think I would be able to do it without him because I would have support from people around me besides him, but that's scary too, and I'm worried about the negative effect on my child.
I know I can't really make any decisions without talking to him about it, and i'm going to tell him as soon as I see him, but I guess I just had to tell someone who has no biases because they know me or him.