37 weeks nerves!

[Leadust92]

Hi all,

I'm 37+3 and starting to feel really overwhelmed and nervous about becoming a mum. I'm excited and can't wait to meet her but I keep getting really scared about being a mum forever. Just need some reassurance and somebody to tell me it's normal please!

Thank you.

Normal to feel like this, it’s an exciting but also don’t be ashamed to feel daunted by it, but as soon as you hold baby in your arms, your worries should go. Most women say it’s the best thing that’s happened to them becoming a mum, from personal experience it’s magical and wouldn’t change being a mum for the world. Make sure you get support from your partner and family, tell them how you feel, a few reassuring hugs should do the trick

@gg321 thank you for replying! I think it’s fear of the unknown. My family are amazing, especially my mum. I’ve spoken to my partner about how I feel and he is also nervous but tries to reassure me. I think it’s also due to the fact that I’ve had a tough pregnancy and now I’m classed as term it’s all a bit overwhelming. Thank you for he reassurance :)

Aww you’ll be fine, sounds like you have a good team around you. Even once you’ve had the baby it’s normal to get a bit down at times so don’t think of that being times when you aren’t being a good mum, I don’t think anyone has ever had a baby and known what to do in every situation, it’s a huge learning curve and there’s no manual, you learn as you go and you will do what’s right for you and your baby, just make sure you ask for help when you need it and don’t just try to handle it all on your own. You should get hold of a book called ‘The Unmumsy Mum’ by Giovanni Fletcher it’s hilarious, really light hearted, and very honest read about motherhood, once you’ve got your baby, there are so many bits of it you will relate to and laugh about. Try it, yiu don’t have to be a big reader, it’s not a heavy read

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Hi! I think it is completely normal to feel like that...... trust me when the baby comes, yes they are amazing and what everyone says is true but ALSO it is the scariest thing ever..... you will have times of having absolutely no idea what you are doing, you will cry about how tired you are. You will learn how to do everything very quickly and with one arm. Tidying the house is difficult. You will wonder if you made the right decision and miss your old “easy life”, but your little baby will look you in the eyes and smile or giggle like you are the best thing ever..... because to them you basically are..... and all your doubts will totally melt away. I know it sounds so cheesy but I wish someone had really told me.... it’s fucking hard; go on dates now, nights away, eat yummy food, sleep loads and enjoy your partner. And don’t feel bad for feeling scared, I’m sure you will be a great mum and your baby will think you are amazing.

@Hellothere19999 everything you say is soooo true!!! Wise words to listen to there @Leadust92

Aww thank you both so much! I have that book! Somebody bought it me for my baby shower and I’ve started reading it, it’s brilliant, so funny!
I lost my taste and smell at 3 months so I’ve had 5 months of that which has gotten me down, ENT thinks pregnancy hormones and not covid because of how long it’s lastest, hoping it returns when baby arrives!! I know it’s going to be hard and I’m very lucky to have a great support network, I just wanted to be reassured it’s a normal feeling :) thank you both :)

No one tells you how hard it is so then you think to yourself why am I finding it so hard and that gets you down but believe me if any mum tells you it’s not hard they are seriously lying! But just like @Hellothere19999says the love from your baby and the love you will have for your baby will make these hard times unimportant.

Hi Op! I'm 37+3 today as well, This is my second but I still got a little overwhelmed the other day about how things are going to change

Communication with those around you is key, sounds like you've got an amazing support network

I'm struggling to sleep now with hip pain which is definitely making me more emotional about it all

Hi @ShyOwl
Aww due date twin :)
Eugh the hip pain is horrid! Have you got a pillow to put between your legs? I find that usually helps me. I think that’s my worry, how things will change and how work will fit in again and then it just spirals. I need to keep reminding myself to enjoy each step and not spend it worrying or I’ll look back and regret missing it all for worrying! Thank you for replying

Oh following! 37 weeks today first time mum... and I'm 36, so have had plentyyy of amazing and selfish child-free years where I've been able to do anything and everything I wanted (travel, going out, long lie ins if I wanted to etc). I'm also not very maternal (well I am, but with my cats and not babies if that makes sense... 😅🤣), never thought "babies are the cutest thing ever and I can't wait to be a mum"... and now I'm going to be a mum forever in a few weeks time 😳 I'm scared of coming home from the hospital with a baby, I mean now we need to keep this little thing alive forever! 😅 it's daunting! Me and DH have never changed a nappy between the two of us, all antenatal classes are cancelled so won't ge the practice in either...

I have lots of nice restaurants booked for the next few weeks (me and DH are massive foodies and love eating out), I keep thinking this is my last chance forever ha-ha!

Forgot to say. Not to say I'm not excited about a new chapter starting, we have had 2 miscarriages before we got to this point (full term today!) but still a bit anxious due to the great unknown 🥴

@gg321 thanks for the tip, I'm buying it now on Kindle! 🥰

@SunStruck that's how I feel, I lost my taste at 13 weeks and it's still not returned so now I feel like I've 'missed my chance' even more. We usually love eating out and now I can't even enjoy that. I think it's natural to feel like this, especially as a ftm as we just don't know what to expect and it's a massive life change! So sorry to hear about your miscarriages, congrats on hitting full term and all the best of luck to you