To be made to feel guilty?

[hieveryonex]

So my DS is nearly 5, me and his dad split up before he turned 1, I've been with my current partner for 3 years and we're now expecting a baby girl together in November and we have very happy as is my DS! For the past week my DS nan from his fathers side has been messaging me saying stuff like, 'make sure you spend time with DS on your own when the baby girl is here ' 'he'll need a few weeks reassurance from you' 'he'll need you to remind him how much HE means to you' etc etc and I'm just like what the hell, I know all this but it's literally like she's trying to make me suddenly feel guilty for having a second child. I don't have nothing to do with my DS fathers side of the family as they caused me a lot of drama when me and his father split but like I said the last week she's gone out of the way to message me these sort of things!

Anyone else been made to feel like this?

My mum has made a few comments like this as I’m expecting DD2 in the next couple of weeks. My mum means well and she isn’t implying I would maliciously ignore DD1.

Only you know what exDP’s mum is like though. Just ignore the messages.

I would completely ignore her. Don't reply to anything. Sounds like you don't have a relationship at all so there's absolutely no reason for her to be sending you random nuggets of "wisdom".

Thanks for the early morning reply

Yeah I haven't even replied to her, she's the only one that has an issue and has made any sort of comments!

When I first found out I was pregnant I did feel a bit like my son would feel pushed out but it's not the case at all , he's been amazing with me while I've been pregnant and so helpful and he keeps saying how excited he is for his little sister to come so I know he'll me just fine

Don't worry I've had a few comments off my mother too - it's in obviously a mum thing! 🤣

If you don't have anything to do with his Dads side of the family, why don't you just block her?

Best wush with the baby 🌷

Wush is iPhone for wishes apparently! 🙄

She's clumsy and unhelpful but I'd try to remember it comes from a place of love for your son. I'd reply every time with a balancing 'please give his new sister the attention she deserves' type thing.