Very early MC 5 weeks

[MrsPea93]

My DH and I fell pregnant on our second cycle of trying and then MC at week 5. So early, I know. (It still doesn't make it any easier though).

This is our first time TTC and I'd read all of the books and forums. We were completely mentally prepared for it to take a long time for us to get a BFP but absolutely not prepared to get one so soon and then for it to pass so quickly.

Has anyone had a similar experience and then gone on the have a healthy pregnancy a few cycles later?

I feel so lost and because it was so early, I almost feel silly feeling sad about it. I guess it was just so unexpected (the BFP and the MC).

Any advice on how not to let this ruin our optimism so early into our TTC journey?!

Nothing silly about feeling sad after an early miscarriage - all losses hurt. We also had an early loss during our first cycle and now are pregnant again on cycle 2. It helped us to think that it was beyond our control and just something that happened.

We fell pregnant very quickly, MMC at 6 weeks. Pregnant again on our 3rd cycle, 4 months later

It also broke me and I had a month off work, went back for 6 weeks, followed by another month off work.
So please don’t be hard on yourself, a miscarriage as any gestation is painful 💐

Hi, I had this and then pregnant the next month, the miscarriage was my date of lmp for the purpose of dating pregnancy. He's currently laid on my chest after falling asleep breastfeeding. He's 6 months and keeping me awake at night!! I'm sorry your going through this.

Alsp, I had a miscarriage before becoming pregnant with my first child too. I found it very very hard. But miscarriages are so so common and just often not spoken about. It can happen to anyone, any age, healthy, unhealthy. There's no rhyme or reason as to why it happened to you.

Yes. I had DS, then 2 6-7 week miscarriages, then DD.
It's not silly to mourn them. When you get your BFP your whole future changes in an instant, and then it's gone.

Thank you for responding sharing your experiences. I am sorry others have gone through this though it is reassuring to hear that it is common and many have gone on to have healthy pregnancies. I wish it were spoken about more though I do understand why so many women may choose to keep it private. Fingers crossed for a healthy pregnancy in the future!

I also had two early losses before this pregnancy. I conceived the first, second and third cycle we tried. I lost the first two at 6 and 5 weeks. I’m now 17 weeks. I was devastated about each miscarriage and also felt guilty being off work. This pregnancy has been hard in terms of anxiety though I’m settling into it now. Good luck! ❤️

@MrsPea93 I do speak about it quite a bit, I notice other people often get uncomfortable though. I don't see why I should leave it out of conversation if it comes up etc. Eg. A colleague asked why I was away for 3 months and was it because of ofsted 🤦‍♀️I replied that I had had my 12 week scan and discovered my baby was very poorly and had to have a termination. He handled it really well, but I could tell when it has come into conversation at different times some people are very uncomfortable

And yes, it's so very difficult, all those hopes with your new preganacy and you can't help but imagine your future, and then it all goes. It's truly heartbreaking. Ione thing i felt after every loss was that it was unlikely I'd have a healthy pregnancy. But I had two. Now I'm done. X