When did you tell immediate family?

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Hi lovelies,

I've just found out I am pregnant with DC 1, but I was wondering, how many weeks were you/are you when you told your closest family?

It's very early days but I work with my mum so I'm going to try and hold off until I'm 7/8 weeks at least but that may be difficult as I see her almost all day 5 days a week!

What did you do?

Thanks!

As late as I could get away with! I hate all the hype and drama. Plus I'm not close to my parents.

It's very much a personal choice. If you'd need your mum's support if anything went wrong (god forbid), then tell her early.

Oh and congrats!

We had a private scan at 9 weeks and announced it then as it was Xmas eve!

Firstly congratulations!!

With my first I told my mum at about 7 weeks cause I wanted to tell someone and thought it would be nice to share with her for support.
I told the rest of my family at 10 weeks cause I was too impatient to wait any longer.
With my second I waited until 14 weeks cause I couldn't be arsed to hear everyone being so excited when I wasn't sure I was yet. Plus it was twins this time so higher risk. If I could have waited longer I would have done! x

Congratulations!! Give yourself at least a week or two to get your head around it all.

I'm 10 weeks and have luckily had only mild symptoms. I've not told family or work yet. If there is risk in your work then you'll need to tell them sooner for a risk assessment (look up safety data sheets for any chemicals you use to get an idea of how bad they are).

We told our parents straight away, we had a MMC in Dec and I was utterly heartbroken and I needed their support. Told them straight away that time too!
I had to tell work straight away as well as we found out during lockdown and I work in a public facing role!

We told family after our 12 week scan. Personally so we knew the baby was fine and more so we knew i was actually pregnant. Sounds strange as i was having pregnancy symptoms but we were so excited that we still couldn't get our heads round it till we had photographic proof. More so my husband 🤣

Thank you everyone!

Ideally I'd love to wait until I've at least had my first scan, but working with my mum 5 days a week I think she's going to realise something is up. She goes away in a couple of weeks so we're thinking of telling them when they get back, I'll be 7/8 weeks!

It’s a personal choice I didn’t announce with my children till late on congratulations

I told my mum almost straight away as she was a great support during my miscarriage last time so I'd like that again should it happen again.

I'll probably tell my Dad and in laws at 12 weeks

Had a private scan at 8 weeks and told them then. Having had the early scan made me so much more nervous for the 12 week one though as would have hated to break the news. Weird I know.

I waited until after the 12 week scan so I knew there was actually a baby in there & everything was okay! For me, telling people early but then having a miscarriage & having to break the news made me too anxious.
If you're close with your mum & she's supportive though there's no harm telling her early, more time to share excitement!

I told my SIL (also my best friend) about 30 mins after getting a BFP. She knew we were trying and every month previous I'd I told her it was still negative so she would've known anyway unless I'd lied.

DH's sister & parents - we told at 8 weeks

My auntie and cousin - 9 weeks

These are the people who would've been there for both of us if anything had happened, so I don't regret telling them so early. Plus I had quite bad sickness so they would've known something was up.

My 6 year old nephew - 13 weeks

Everyone else - 15 weeks

My thoughts were to tell those who would support us, should the worst happen, rather than us have the high and low keeping it quiet between us

I'm 10 weeks today. We told FIL about 6 weeks because he kept saying about no one visiting him even though we couldn't for ages because of covid, and I felt too sick to manage a 10+ hour car journey (no way I'm getting on a plane).

My side still don't know. I will probably tell my dad/brother/sister with kids after first scan. I'm worried about telling my other sister who really wants kids but is too ill to manage and my mum because as much as I want to tell her I've had depression in the past and I think she will worry about me getting PND. She lives 80 miles away so I can get away with it for a while. I might try get to second scan with her.

Parents and siblings after the first scan and close friends after the screening was back. Anyone else just when we were chatting, or when they've seen me with my bump!

The first time I got pregnant we told our families around 8 weeks but sadly had a MMC. I don’t regret telling them as their support when it happened was invaluable. This time we told them almost as soon as we knew (4-5weeks) because we will count on them whatever happens. I think it depends what relationship you have and how close you are.

I told my parents and PIL right away because I was so excited. Everyone else we told after 12 weeks.

I told my mum as soon as I got a positive test with pregnancy #2...

We'd needed fertility treatments to conceive our son so this was a shock, think she got over excited and told everyone. Unfortunately it wasn't a healthy pregnancy, I had to awkwardly tell people when they asked me how I was getting on or pregnancy related questions :(

Safe to say with our next pregnancy I'm keeping it private until 12 weeks at least x

I told my mum at 6 weeks as I was in hospital with HE, and felt someone should know (even though my husband and I were both 30 lol) she kindly didn't tell anyone - not even my dad, her DH until we announced at 10 weeks as we were moving across the country and needed help moving from both sets of parents and I was still being violently sick all day. Told everyone else about 18 weeks though due to previous losses

Told after the 12 weeks scan

I told my mum immediately after doing the test! But we are very close and she had helped me when I had. A miscarriage.
My dad at 12 weeks, wider family after 20 week scan.

Told my mum immediately after the test with #2 only because i was in so much shock from only having #1 4 months previously!