Brown blood. 11 weeks pregnant 😢

[KazDee9]

Hi guys. I’ve had 4 successful pregnancies. 17 yr old, 13 , 12 and 3. I had my 3 year old aged 40. Since my youngest I had two unexpected pregnancies and had my first 2 miscarriages. The second one was terrible as we went for a private scan and I was told it had died at 7 weeks, just after us watching a gender reveal in reception and all the happy faces of the family then left with the news there was no heartbeat. This baby did not pass out of me till I was about 10 or 11 weeks so everyday just I was waiting for it to happen and it took about 3 weejs. So now 2 years on, an unexpected one when I hadn’t thought about having any note again. Now it’s happened I really really want it. I decided I was not going to any private scan or even see a midwife until I know I have a living baby in there. I literally cannot go through looking at that screen and the sad look and the sigh which I feel is likely as I’m 43. I had nightmares for ages. So I’ve just waited to see what nature does. I am now 11 weeks so of course such a fearful time as the time the last two came out and two days ago I had spotting. It was all brown but then some orange reddish which I guess was some fresh. So I went to bed Wednesday expecting to wake up soaked and it’s all over but only a tiny bit of brown. So then all yesterday mild aches and brown spotting on wiping. All day. Often I get an ache just on my right side but atm it’s clearly just my womb area . Last night I went to the toilet and another tissue of what looked like it had new blood in it so again I thought he we go it’s over. But on waking, just some brown. Sometimes I wipe and there is barely a thing then other times today there has been quite a lot of noticeable brown. I never bled with any of my first 4 children or got aches. Adding to my fears I did feel sickly from 7 weeks to 10 , then the sickness just stopped hence I fear it has died again. As I’m writing this I feel dull period type aches but I’m not bleeding. But I know if I go toilet later most likely will be brown on the tissue. I wish it would just stop. Or if it’s bad news my body just get on and do what it has to do as this limbo is unbearable. Like fear and dread like it’s over I know it is , followed by hope of well I’ve not miscarried yet the baby could be alive ! Has anybody else experienced such a thing at 11 weeks ( it started day I turned 11 and it’s now 11+2) and how long did it last or turn out ? Like I said it’s this limbo I can’t stand and I know there is nothing a doctor can do about it as I’m first trimester , hence I don’t see point in going to hospital to be told in public no heartbeat. If I’m going to loose it I’d rather just loose it at home and miss out any other people. Many thanks

Is your 12 week scan soon? I would go see your doctor or EPU to get things checked out. With my miscarriage (at 12 weeks) it started with spotting but progressed overnight to passing large clots - so things moved quite quickly.

@KazDee9 so sorry about
Your previous losses, I've had 2 mc and currently just under 7 weeks pregnant and absolutely terrified. It's down to personal preference but I would personally call epu as I would like to know if I was going to mc again. Bleeding can be completely normal and brown blood is old blood. I really hope your little bean is nice and cosy in there xx

Not 11 weeks. But I had bleeding at 7 weeks and all was fine. However I went to the EPU to check. I hope you're ok - I think you should definitely get yourself checked x

Sorry you are going through this. I mc earlier this year at 12 weeks. I started spotting on the Sunday morning and it continued on and off just mainly when I wiped. Like you I was just waiting for it to happen properly but holding on to some hope. Didn't bother trying to go to EPU as had my dating scan that week so just thought what will be will be, I'll find out then. In the end my body stepped in and saved me from having a horrible scan experience, I started very obviously and actively miscarrying on the Wednesday am, about half an hour before I would have left to go for my scan. So 3 days of spotting, then a sudden gush and then very heavy bleeding for a few hours and it was over. So yes if it is a mc it can start how you describe and take a while to get going properly. OTOH while I was in the waiting and hoping stage I did find loads of stories online of spotting/ bleeding and happy outcomes so it can happen either way.

I get where you're coming from not getting checked out. My 12 week one I was relieved my body dealt with it rather than having to be told by a sonographer, especially as partners aren't allowed since covid so I'd have been alone. Glad it all happened in the privacy and comfort of my own home. Midwives knew as I very tearfully phoned to cancel scan. They rang back next day and as long as I was confident I had passed everything and felt well they said no need to go in or have any follow up.

I think I am starting to mc again now - 6 weeks this time and more than spotting, like the start of a period. I hadn't told GP about pregnancy yet this time as I also decided I would wait and see if I stay pregnant. Again I'm taking the attitude what will be will be, AFAIK EPU can't do anything as such, just tell me a bit sooner if it is definitely mc. I'd rather wait for now and see if my body figures it out. I'm 41 and that also influences that decision - I know I'm higher risk and I'm not that optimistic, like I say I'd rather my body give me bad news than a stranger. Think I'm a bit anxious too that staff there might not be all that supportive/ compassionate in view of my age and will just think that this is what I should expect. And it is what I expect really, but not what I want of course or what I'm yet prepared to accept is the only possible outcome for me. I'm feeling pretty sensitive and would struggle if I encountered a less than compassionate attitude, which I fear I might.

I hope you do get a good outcome, and wishing you strength either way. The waiting and uncertainty are horrible.

Thanks for all your replies and sorry for the losses mentioned. It is horrible thing to go through. Well it's 4 th day still going on bits of brown blood. Sometimes nothing on wiping , other times a big patch on the paper a couple of wipes so like filling two. Then nothing much bar odd tiny spots , then more again. I do think it's a really really slow miscarriage now but I guess only time will tell and obviously there are cases where some woman have bled loads and been fine. I just don't feel optimistic right now. My other two miscarriages were not like this , they just started and got worse fast until passing the sack all intact like 3 rd or so day in. This is just weird and had enough now really have

@JoPublic

Sorry you are going through this. I mc earlier this year at 12 weeks. I started spotting on the Sunday morning and it continued on and off just mainly when I wiped. Like you I was just waiting for it to happen properly but holding on to some hope. Didn't bother trying to go to EPU as had my dating scan that week so just thought what will be will be, I'll find out then. In the end my body stepped in and saved me from having a horrible scan experience, I started very obviously and actively miscarrying on the Wednesday am, about half an hour before I would have left to go for my scan. So 3 days of spotting, then a sudden gush and then very heavy bleeding for a few hours and it was over. So yes if it is a mc it can start how you describe and take a while to get going properly. OTOH while I was in the waiting and hoping stage I did find loads of stories online of spotting/ bleeding and happy outcomes so it can happen either way.

I get where you're coming from not getting checked out. My 12 week one I was relieved my body dealt with it rather than having to be told by a sonographer, especially as partners aren't allowed since covid so I'd have been alone. Glad it all happened in the privacy and comfort of my own home. Midwives knew as I very tearfully phoned to cancel scan. They rang back next day and as long as I was confident I had passed everything and felt well they said no need to go in or have any follow up.

I think I am starting to mc again now - 6 weeks this time and more than spotting, like the start of a period. I hadn't told GP about pregnancy yet this time as I also decided I would wait and see if I stay pregnant. Again I'm taking the attitude what will be will be, AFAIK EPU can't do anything as such, just tell me a bit sooner if it is definitely mc. I'd rather wait for now and see if my body figures it out. I'm 41 and that also influences that decision - I know I'm higher risk and I'm not that optimistic, like I say I'd rather my body give me bad news than a stranger. Think I'm a bit anxious too that staff there might not be all that supportive/ compassionate in view of my age and will just think that this is what I should expect. And it is what I expect really, but not what I want of course or what I'm yet prepared to accept is the only possible outcome for me. I'm feeling pretty sensitive and would struggle if I encountered a less than compassionate attitude, which I fear I might.

I hope you do get a good outcome, and wishing you strength either way. The waiting and uncertainty are horrible.

Sorry to hear you think you are right now. I guess though at 7 weeks it's better than to get to 12 again as awful as it sounds. I said to my friend yesterday why didn't it just happen early on why do I seem to get to this end of trimester so your thinking it is fine. Plus you get attached to the idea. I think if I'd done a test then gone a few weeks and lost the pregnancy I'd of been ok. Like I said wasn't planning another baby but now I'd gotten so use to idea of having one and was excited and looking forward to it. Nature can be so unfair !

I had bleeding (brown and pinkish) when I was pregnant with ds at 7 weeks then again at 11 weeks. I when to the gp who told me as long as it’s not bright red blood or clots try not to worry. My ds is now a very bouncy 4 yr old!
Fingers crossed for you op.

Perhaps this is to do with age OP as I take it you are 43 ish. Your hormones may be at the stage now that things will be different to previous pregnancies as they are different?

This could all be fine for the new you in your 49s or it it might not. Difficult to guess so I think I’d be getting it checked out as the suspense and anticipation and worry can’t be good for you and you want to know what’s going on.

40s not 49s, duh.

@Dinosaursdontgrowontrees

I had bleeding (brown and pinkish) when I was pregnant with ds at 7 weeks then again at 11 weeks. I when to the gp who told me as long as it’s not bright red blood or clots try not to worry. My ds is now a very bouncy 4 yr old! Fingers crossed for you op.

That's good to know and pleased you had your baby !! Was it a lot though. Last wipe it was pinkish and as I've had aches I thought here we go that must be fresh blood so it's starting to all go now. Pinkish brown or even slightly orangey I don't know so hard to describe. I mean not bright red blood at all but I assumed the change in colour it's old mixed with some new. Did you get mild period pains with it as well ? Strangely mine seems to be mainly on my right side had it on and off all week. Sometimes aches in the womb area like mild period pains but definitely a noticeable tightness or discomfort down the right side of it all

@Elieza

Perhaps this is to do with age OP as I take it you are 43 ish. Your hormones may be at the stage now that things will be different to previous pregnancies as they are different?

This could all be fine for the new you in your 49s or it it might not. Difficult to guess so I think I’d be getting it checked out as the suspense and anticipation and worry can’t be good for you and you want to know what’s going on.

I have pondered this you know. My friend whose trying to be positive and supportive bless him has been looking at things and one thing he found was the placenta takes over at 11 weeks and as it settles it can push out old blood from your uterus or irritate your cervix. For 20 odd years I had light periods barely noticeable and over in 3 days. Since the last few years wow when I say heavy I mean it's a repeated time of dread. Thank goodness I discovered the menstrual cup and material washable sanitary pads which are comfortable and more affective than these wafer thin pads that slide all over the place. I fill the cup about 8 times ! So it would make sense for me to have plenty of old blood lingering lol. I'm not feeling so optimistic right now tbh I've kind of prepared for the worst and put a pad on for the day. I guess I see this as my last chance to have a baby now but hey ho I know full well what a baby and pre schooler involves and of course it would make my life harder for a while plus I have older ones that need me and it's spreading myself over more people. I just really really wanted to hold a brand new baby again as there is nothing better is there. I just love babies !! xx

Plus I've become so attached to this one ! It's like you can't see it but you prepare this space for it to come and think that's your future , then it can just change so abruptly. I never really realised how traumatic miscarriages are until experiencing it. Yes it's a tiny tiny thing and you've never met him/her , but you really do feel like someone has died you know. Your mind is ready for them I guess and expecting them. Horrible horrible. I know if this comes to pass in next few days I'm going to be miserable and down and sad for ages again ugh. Just sick of getting to end of first trimester and it happening. As by then you've thought yay it's working and I'm having a baby in 29 weeks

When is your 12 week scan?
I hope things work out ok for you

Keeping everything crossed for you op x

Try and think positive OP. It may not happen. Easy for me to say though. Don’t get down until you know for sure.

It could still be ok and progressing normally for you at this age.

Do you have fibroids? That could be why you had bad periods recently.

They can cause brown blood seeping out. And if not big they are not a problem with pregnancy. It could be something as simple as that.

This really could be the new you. Don’t freak yet. Try and stay calm. I know that sounds trite but try.

If the worst happens you can feel all the bad emotions then. Feeling them now won’t lessen anything so no need to start feeling bad now. Plenty time later if needs be but they may not.

Keep taking the vitamins and minerals etc. you would usually take.

Definitely hope for the best! The placenta idea makes sense, as does the idea that normal pregnancy in your 40s might just be different. You are so right about 11/12 weeks that you've really got attached by now and started to think it will be ok, so so hard if it's then taken away from you. BUT you don't know that yet! Don't give up hope, every pregnancy is different and everything could well be fine x

If you don't go for a scan or speak to your Dr you won't know. There are lots of potential reasons for brown spotting. You could have a subchorionic haematoma which has a lot of variables depending on size, location etc. Or it could be the start of a loss. Or it could be completely benign and unexplained. Waiting won't change the outcome. X

Sorry I meant to add, I have a SCH this pregnancy and my Dr has told me to
Expect some brown spotting. She said not to bother contacting her unless it becomes bright red. So far I havent had anything but I won't be worried unless it is heavy and bright red.

OP instead of stressing yourself out with worry - just call the EPU and they will look at what’s going on for you.
I’ve had both cases - first pregnancy ended in early miscarriage which started off brown and then turned into fresh red quite quickly afterwards.
Currently pregnancy (currently 34+4) I had some pink blood at 7 weeks, which I got checked out straight away, then some brown on wiping at around 13 weeks I think it was, 2 other very small bleeds at 21&22 weeks which are caused by a cervical polyp. All has been fine since then and crossing my fingers it continues. There can be many explanations for bleeding in pregnancy that aren’t the worst news, you’re best off getting checked out to see what they say.

Hello how did you get on? I'm just turned 43 and 12 weeks preg and today had brown blood.. Hope u OK

Hi
I’m 13 weeks and 2 days ago I had brown blood and I went to A&E. I had a scan yesterday and baby was perfectly fine 🙏 they couldn’t find a reason for the bleeding.
Depends on how much you are bleeding, if your in pain etc. Only way to know for sure is to have a scan

@jen1234
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