Have I been a pregzillia?

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So as above, 35 weeks pregnant and am feeling super paranoid that I’ve been a pregzilla as in laws have been super cool with me and my mums made comments about me being very anxious.

So... Ive listed below what might be considered preschools/pregzilla behaviour

• March to May my partner and DH followed lockdown rules and didn’t visit anyone although DH did continue to do weekly shop for his parents who were both in the shielded category. This decision particularly upset MIL who thought we didn’t need to distance from her because she wasn’t seeing anyone else and so couldn’t have caught it (although she did still have to attend medical appointments once-twice a month during this time)
• May to June we did start visiting parents in gardens sitting 2m apart. Again the decision to remain 2m apart provoked eye rolling. From June time DH also decided he would hug his parents again (they are both separated and single and so hadn’t had any contact with anyone). I decided not to being pregnant and wanting to be cautious.
• July we moved to indoors visits with parents, windows open sitting 2m apart. This again provoked eye rolling and comments about being OTT
• August we now feel comfortable visiting parents indoors without 2m distance and windows closed
• In terms of other behaviour, I declined the offer from MIL to use my DHs Moses basket which she had saved for 30 years. I understand it was v sentimental to her. I declined though as I wanted to choose my own Moses basket as it’s my first baby and was also concerned about the safety standards not being up to date (didn’t give this last point as a reason to MIL though)
• I have complained about back ache and feeling tired to in laws and parents. Not all the time though and mainly when asked how I’m doing
• I def have struggled not to yawn in company (see lack of sleep above) particularly when around in laws as my MIL doesn’t stop talking and I find it overwhelming with little sleep
• and then lastly I have to admit we prob do talk about the baby/becoming parents/pregnancy most times we see our parents which is on a weekly basis. It’s our first child and first grandchild on either side so we’ve prob been over excited and I guess it could have become tedious for them. But I think I’ve made a real conscious effort to make sure I am asking about what is happening in their lives still. My parents have also prob had to endure most of this pregnancy chat though as I do struggle to get a word in edge wise with in laws.

So anyone I def feel like I’m getting the cold shoulder and a bit of eye rolling again when we talk about pregnancy etc which has made me feel paranoid about how I’ve been acting...

So I’m wondering if my behaviour does seem OTT or precious compared to others at this time?

Sorry for this being a novel

Nothing wrong with any of that, and on the Moses basket front, thirty years is a long time, I would have said no too, again like others you don't know how it's been stored, could have mould spores somewhere 🤷

My MIL gave us toys that she'd kept from when DH was born that had his teeth marks in, I'm not talking about precious sentimental stuff, I'm talking about plastic blocks, things like that, my DH asked me to say yes to some stuff as couldn't all be a no and hurt her feelings.

Thanks all, really appreciate getting some perspective. I’m one of the first of my friends to get pregnant so don’t really have a gauge on what is normal! Take on board the views about the Moses basket - perhaps that’s something I could row back on then. I suppose concerns about it being 2nd hand aside I felt a bit like choosing the bed/basket for your newborn is a special item and in my head I thought well you got to pick that out for your first child and now I want to have that experience too as it’s the first time il be a mum. I think also as it was offered quite early on in the pregnancy with lots of all my partners old toys it def did make feel weirdly territorial. Like inside I really wanted to point out that this was a different baby not a clone of my partner. I don’t know in hindsight I guess that was a bit mad/hormonal and yeah it must have caused hurt feelings to reject it

I bought the cheapest Moses basket I could find at the last minute partly because I forgot and partly because loads of people said their babies didn't like them/only slept in them a few weeks. Then DD loved hers and slept in it for months even the it was a horrible creaky, wonky thing!

My point being - try not to obsess about the baby stuff too much! I know it's hard but we spent ages choosing things that turned out to be useless and realised that most modern stuff you could totally do without!

You’re being a bit precious about the Moses basket. It doesn’t have to be the baby’s main crib, and you can still have the experience of choosing that. Get a new mattress and use it for naps downstairs. Your baby will very likely outgrow it within a couple of months and you can graciously hand it back with thanks.

Not pregzilla at all. I wouldnt of had the moses basket either, it's not just about a new mattress, you really don't know how safe it is in general. My moses basket was lovely but I really can't see it being usable In thirty years. I wouldnt be happy with the rolling of the eyes, just rude.

Think of all those mould spores lying amongst the wicker on a 30 year old moses basket. Grim. I wouldn't sleep in one let alone pop a baby into it (not that I'd fit!)