Hi , not sure if anyone has been in the same situation before but just want abit of advice , I had my daughter nearly 6 years ago via forceps . With that I had to have an episiotomy and to top it all off I tore Aswell which was 3rd degree 😬
It was very painful and took around 6 months to fully heal , I also had some incontinence issues which lasted around a month after birth .
Fast forward to now and I'm pregnant again I'm due nov , and have seen a consultant who basically said I'm young and wouldnt see why I couldn't give birth natural , as I would heal quick with me been young 🤷🏼♀️ he also gave me a 1 in 20 chance of it happening again or worse worse case been fully incontinent which he said isn't a high percentage ( to me that is)
During the app he couldn't find my previous records wasn't sure what and why it happened last time and I had to explain , he seemed to brush off what happened last time as though that's just what happens , and said he has to offer me a c section but really he doesn't see the need to have one . But like I said kept mentioning how young I am and that I shouldn't take long to heal (the 6 months it took last time was very very long for me and I really don't think he understood that )
I'd love a natural birth , but the risks just don't sit well with me the thought of it been worse or even having the same as last time worry's me , I know a c section wouldn't be a walk in the park either but I know it's roughly a 6 week recovery time compared to 6 months 🤷🏼♀️ my family and friends have all advised with the c section ,
Could anyone tell me there story's please if they have had to make the same decision as me or what you would do in my situation
Thankyou sorry about the long post 😬