Overwhelmed

[Iz01]

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Currently 23 weeks pregnant with 2nd child and struggling. Feeling quite isolated and so overwhelmed. We have a small 2 bedroomed house, that already feels quite cramped and just don’t know where to begin on trying to work out where to store everything or have enough space, so worried about becoming a mum again, feel like I’m failing already. We are really struggle with money since my partners hours got cut and it’s all getting too much for me. I just feel so overwhelmed by it all, finances, being a mum, preparing for a second child, home life, everything. I just don’t know how to get some calm and control back in my life and just don’t know who to talk to.

Is this a moment of pregnancy madness or a slow trickle of everything just getting on top of you?

You will be fine. And there isn't much you can do? - sorry to sound so blunt I am honestly very empathetic with you

Congratulations on your pregnancy.
It’s a really overwhelming time, and I think even if you had a huge house and everything you need you’d still have that anxiety.
I found making lists really helped me. In the early days you really don’t need much. Try and stick to essentials to help you budget and to save space.
Hopefully someone else can give you some better advice.
Could you be entitled to additional benefits now that your OH has had his hours reduced?
Sending you loads of love, because I know how consuming worry can be. Remember your midwife can help you with financial worries too, so might be worth seeing if they have any advice. Take care x

I'm so sorry you are having all of these feelings.

It depends what normally makes you feel better whether that's a chat with a friend or action.

I'm an action gal so I would be making lists of every room and working out how to declutter. Might even be able to sell a few things and make a bit of money?

This girl can organise on Instagram has lots of great storage ideas for inspo.

Have a cry, eat some chocolate and then face the music and write some declutter lists and check finances to make sure you aren't paying for something you could do without.

Wishing you all the best xxx

@Iz01 I can completely relate. I have an 18 month old and I'm 22 weeks pregnant with twins.. I'm still not entirely sure I've got my head round it, we have a 3 bed house but moved here cause my partner lost his job (our home normally comes with his job) and although it has 3 rooms it has no storage space which we had at the last place so our 3rd bedroom is a store room which would be impossible to make any sort of order of. We're still waiting to hear about another job so we might be moving again but don't know when and exactly where to.
I'm not sure I'm going to cope with newborns and a toddler, I'm scared he will feel left out, I'm not near any family (blessing in disguise I think really) but worry about where my little boy will go when I go to hospital. I normally work in the local hospital but have been signed off cause of covid I'm not allowed to work.
Sometimes I think I have to just sit down and look at my boy and just think no matter what happens, I love him so much and I love these new babies so much and if I don't hold myself together for them then what else can I do? I think sometimes we have to just accept the situation we are in and think it will be ok, even if for no other reason than it has to be. Sending a virtual hug x