2 babies in 18 months - how does anyone do it??

[Nc1468]

My son was born back in September 2019 and I'm currently 14 weeks pregnant with a very surprise second baby, meaning I will have two under 18 months when this baby is born!

Starting to get really concerned about how hard it's gonna be, I had really awful PND with my son and although things are better now I'm really worried about how I will cope with two.

My son's just started sleeping through the night thankfully but being pregnant in constantly tired and the days feel so long 🤦🏼‍♀️

Someone please tell me it's easier than it seems!

I have 13 months between my 2 and had the same fears you did... you will surprise yourself with how u manage to cope. You will fine your own routine and a new normal and although it will be hard it's manageable & now they're 3 & 2, they're such amazing company for each other & love each other to bits. Just don't put pressure on yourself with expectations of 'how it should be' and 'what you should be doing' if you have help-accept it when you can.
I would do it again with the same gap so couldn't have been that bad lol!

I am currently fostering a 4 month old and a 9 month old and I love having two babies, previously I had a two year old and a newborn (who is my now 9 month old). Things have just got slightly harder now the 9 month old is very mobile as he is fascinated by his smaller counterpart and wants to clamber all over him but on the whole it has been a joy to have them both. I just follow their routines and don't sweat the small stuff, I find that most afternoons they nap at around the same time which gives me some time to get some jobs done around the house.

Hi @Nc1468
Just wanted to say that I had 14 months between my DS and DD. It was hard and tiring but they are 7 and 8 now and I honestly think it was the best decision. They are such amazing buddies. They share interests and friends which is brilliant. You will find what works for you, personally I found it easiest to have a routine that I stuck to and I tried to make sure that they napped at the same time. Good luck and congratulations on your pregnancy x

I have 18 months between my 2 children, I can’t lie and say it was easy for the first 2 years, it wasn’t. I breastfed both (not at the same time), the second for just over 2 years (he wouldn’t give it up!) and he would scream all night if I left him with my parents as he still fed in the night, yes at 2! So I never got a break for over 2 years. Once he was weaned and I got my life back a little I started to see the benefits of having them so close. They are now 3 and 4 and it’s amazing, they are at the same stage ish and into the same things so play nicely together. I’d love to lie and say it was a breeze but it really wasn’t, was all worth it though now we are out the fog!