Why do some people think babies and pregnancy is the ONLY thing you want to talk about when you're pregnant

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Just met up with some friends of DH. The friend's wife has just given birth and I'm pregnant. She's always been very forthright and bossy but she just talked at me constantly about being pregnant. Some of it was useful, but oh my god I was talked at and couldn't get a word in edgeways. I was bored to tears by the end. Even as she was leaving she ordering me to ask my midwife to have me checked for gestational diabetes because she'd had it and bla bla bla.
Why do some people just talk non-stop unsolicited advice when you're pregnant? It's so fucking TEDIOUS.

I fully get this, my MIL will always make comments about stuff we plan to have or have brought for baby, especially 'oh didn't have that in my day' well no cause you've got one kid and he's 29 so I'm not surprised that things has changed a bit since then or that I have my own tastes and ideas of what I want. But she says it for literally everything.
And it's nice people checking in on bump because being pregnant over lockdown has meant not being able to share the growing bump and bits with people but it's annoying when they're asking you like every other day! If something changed then I'd tell him so they don't need to check in every 5 minutes.

Completely agree, I absolutely hated it when I was pregnant with DS. It was a really anxious time for me - I was pregnant after recurrent miscarriage and there were quite a few issues during the pregnancy - and at some points I found it hard to talk about the pregnancy without tearing up, so I really didn't want everyone I ever met asking me about it. It's such a silver lining to the current situation for me; I'm not telling anyone at work except my manager until at least 20 weeks, ideally later which I'd never get away with in the office (I'm 16 weeks and already look v pregnant this time round!) but because we're all at home I can keep schtum and continue to be treated like a person not a baby machine for as long as possible.

@Hardbackwriter Sorry you had such a tough time.
I think you've hit the nail on the head, it really rankles to be defined by it when I feel like my life has expanded, not contracted.

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What a grump you sound!

I also had a very high risk pregnancy and was in hospital for 5 months straight.

I loved that people asked after me, it shows they care.*

Asking after me is fine, I like that. It's the demanding answers every three days that makes me grumpy. My MIL wants to know when I'll deliver. I don't know. Will I have a section. I don't know. But you have to know! No the doctor says it depends on x, y and z and he'll decide when we get there. When is that? When either the scans or my health says so. But he needs to decide before that. No, he is monitoring our health and he will let me stay pregnant for as long as safely possible. He could decide at any moment to admit me to hospital if that is what is necessary but he thinks that I will stay pregnant till near the end of a normal pregnancy. So how long is that? I don't know, it depends on our health. But you have to know! How is she doing now? She looked fine three days ago at the scan. I sent you a picture. Her growth seems normal. There was no indication of anything wrong. Everything looked normal. Yes, but that was three days ago, what about now? Well she's kicking, more I do not know. Why not? Well I can't look into my belly so that's all the info I have at the moment. I trust things are going well, I feel well. Yes, but we need to know more. Well I don't know more at this point but the doctor isn't worried. But are you sure?

And it goes on and on and on. Every few days. Yes, that makes grumpy. It doesn't sound like helpful asking to me, it sounds like demanding answers and anxiety and I'm trying not to stress out here. Would you seriously enjoy conversations (average of 20 minutes) like this twice a week? And that's just MIL.

Yes, some people seemed aggrieved that I wasn’t entirely consumed by my own pregnancy, when, honestly, I was commuting between countries for work, trying to finish a major project before I went on mat leave, and the nice thing about growing a baby is that it does it by itself, you don’t have to do anything.

I hate this too, I didn't tell anyone until I was 18 weeks and will do the same this time round if I can! I hate being pregnant and I hate talking about it and feeling like I should be excited when I'm not!

@rorosemary That sounds exhausting. I can feel my blood pressure rising and I'm not even dealing with it!

@Inching I'm the same. Busy with work and trying to finish things off.