8wks, lost symptoms

[Mimba1]

I am 8+2 today. Had a scan at 7+1 and measured 6+5 after a week of awful nausea and boob pain but since then my symptoms have improved and today I woke up and have nothing. I feel absolutely fine. I feel like I'm too old for this but I just can't stop crying.

I had a MMC in January at 8wks measuring 5 and a MC in April found after some spotting at 9wks. We'd seen baby's HB at 8wks so it was a shock. With both of those I had fading symptoms before I found out and was told it was "normal". I've felt a lot worse with this PG but it just feels like it's the same thing happening. I just don't know if I can go through this again. I'm 36 already and we were TTC for 3 yrs before our first MC so it's been a long journey. I just feel like I've been pregnant and grieving for the whole year. Called the EPU but past experience tells me that I will be told not to worry until I see blood but that could be weeks away even if it isn't OK and I just don't believe them any more - I've been told it's OK when it isn't too many times now.

I'm not even sure what I'm looking for from writing this message - maybe some reassurance from someone who had this and it was fine, or maybe just someone else who understands?

Sorry, that was long and negative! Please feel free to ignore me.

I found that pregnancy symptoms faded in and out and not every day was full on tiredness & sickness. Sometimes I woke up and was feeling fine and insisted we go out and make the most of not feeling crap!
It’s hard not to micro examine every symptom or receding symptoms, but equally I’m not going to say try to relax as I know after losses that’s impossible - best wishes though

I’m 11+2 today, after a MMC in March, and a couple of weeks back lost the majority of my symptoms for a couple of days, it really stressed me out. It happened on the day I was going to my booking appointment so I asked the midwife about it and he said that if you still have anything at all then they wouldn’t worry (I still had a slight horrible taste in my mouth) but knowing my history he’s aware I’ll be extra anxious and he recommended ringing the EPU and saying I was bleeding if I needed to - he said it’s the only way to get a scan at the moment. So if you’re really worried, I’d recommend that! As it happens, I already had a private scan booked for that weekend so just waited for that and everything was absolutely fine, baby with a nice strong heartbeat, measuring as it should (and my symptoms came back with a vengeance!)

Completely understand the worry (my symptoms dropped with my MMC too), it’s so hard to believe it’s not happening again, isn’t it?! I would definitely recommend getting a scan either privately or through the EPU to set your mind at rest either way.

Sending positive vibes and a big hug xx

Thanks @SkyBlue20. Congrats on your pregnancy. I haven't even told the Dr - both of my booking appointments ended up being days before I MC so I'm waiting this time. All of my symptoms had gone this morning. I'm tired - but I've been in tears most of the day so hardly surprising. I have an NHS scan booked for Tuesday so I think I just need to wait until then. Logically I know that nothing will change the outcome at this point and I'm just driving myself crazy - after feeling fine this morning I threw up my breakfast at 11:30 but pretty sure that was just because I was so worried as I haven't felt at all sick since and other days it has crept back by this time of day. I had some stabbing pain on Saturday as well which I had with both of my MC. I don't know how anyone gets through this! I just want to know what's happening.

Sending hugs @Mimba1, it's so, SO difficult. Sending you lots of positive vibes for Tuesday, please do let me know how you get on - and try and keep busy in the meantime, occupy your mind as much as possible to not think about it. I found watching crappy TV whilst lying on the couch under a blanket was a God send when my anxiety got too much to handle. xx

Just a quick update - I always hated the posts with no conclusion. Scan today was fine! Measuring 9wks (I'm 9+1 based on LMP). I could even see tiny arms and legs starting to grow (apparently they were arms - honestly it looked like a blob with some fuzzy edges to me) . That's after my symptoms declining to nothing from 7 to 8wks (some have come back off and on in last week but not all) and stabbing pains in my uterus exactly like I had with my MMC at 8wks. Apparently this is gastric cramping and quite common. This is the most pregnant I've ever been - now I need to hold onto the hope!

Amazing, @Mimba1 - I'm so happy for you and kept checking back to see how you were ☺️ The odds of everything being fine after a successful scan at 9 weeks are definitely in your favour. I hope everything continues perfectly for you xx