Hot tub & drinks plausible excuse - early pregnancy

[BiscuitsAndBabies]

Hi lovelies,
I've not posted anything on mumsnet before but I've got a question I'm hoping someone could advise me on please.
I've got two children a 7 year old and a 13 month old and we've just found out I'm about 4 weeks pregnant, so it's very early days. With both my previous pregnancies I told everyone within days of getting a positive on test but this time I'm trying to keep it quiet until 12 weeks.
My friend has invited me to her hot tub and have some drinks.. my partner works shifts and I breastfeed still, so I rarely agree to go for drinks and haven't seen much of my friends with lockdown etc but when I do get out I'm usually the mad one who encourages everyone to drink up 🙈
I would like to go as my partner is actually off at the weekend, which is rare but I need a plausible excuse for not getting in the hot tub (partner suggested saying it's my time of the month but I fear I'd need an excuse to not drink too which might seem odd?) And an excuse to not drink.. any ideas that could cover both would be much appreciated.
Sorry for long ramble, if you've stuck by me this far thank you x

What about inventing a raging infection "down there". Antibiotics = no alcohol and gunk = no hot tub

Driving and you forgot your costume?

Terrible headache? Set it up earlier in the day saying you don’t know if you’ll make it but you’re taking some paracetamol and lying down and hope to make it. Turn up saying you’re mostly better, but steering clear of anything that might make it worse again.

Just be the pourer, take a no-secco in a chilly bottle etc, too upnin loo, and fill yours first... nurse it a bit then forget cossi, worries about covid etc

Could you go with what your partner says and say time of month for hot tub excuse, just say it’s really heavy! Then accept the drinks, ideally make your own minus the alcohol or if that’s not possible do pretend sipping then discreetly tip it away, if others in hot tub and you aren’t it might be easy to do it without being noticed or occasionally wander into house and tip bits away

Thank you both so much!! Antibiotics for down there is a winner so far as my friend lives 5 minutes walk from me so if I said I was driving she might look at me a bit gone out, but I'll definitely keep that in the bank for future outings as there's bound to be something crop up in the next few weeks 🙈 thank you again! I'm so excited I could shout it from the rooftops but I just don't want a repeat of last time where I was huge, gave birth 13 days late to a 9lb 5 gorgeous boy but had everyone telling me the pregnancy had been going on forever.. ya think?! 😂 xxx

Thank you all so much, I hate lying to anyone especially my two best friends who it will be with but I just can't face all the questions and well meaning judgement because I have two already, feel like people might be a bit like "well aren't you greedy".. so definitely just want a few weeks of it being a secret. Really appreciate you taking the time to reply, the nosecco is a fabulous idea that I may need for my partner's birthday drinks with his family coming up xx

You can tell them you are on antibiotics if you like, but they will know you’re pregnant before you’ve finished the sentence.

I would just tell them

I emptied a bottle of gin and filled it with water 🙈
Just I’ve to hope no one else has any of it! x

3 babies is absolutely awesome, not greedy! I am one of 3 and love having my sisters. Congratulations xxx

I was also usually the mental, most drunk at any party and never drove friend lol I found the best way was to just pretend to drink and have an excuse why I could only have a few, appointment early the next day or something. I think if I said I wasn't drinking because of antibiotics my friends would of twigged straight away. If they think you are drinking no one really pays attention or notices. How many people will be there? Maybe not so easy with just a couple of you

Ah that's a good point really, I've literally never been known to turn down a drink except for when I was pregnant and the 6 months exclusively breastfeeding after.. since then if I say just a few it's always more if I know my children are safely looked after and I have the opportunity to go pee as many times as I like without a cat, a child, a toddler all following me 😂
We haven't told my partners parents yet which is why I'm reluctant to even tell my two best friends (it will just be us 3 at hers) as we're so close with his parents but I'm worried about telling them too soon this time..

I've also quit smoking, which I only started (stupidly) again a couple months ago, so I really do think if I'm suddenly not smoking, not getting in hot tub and not drinking they're going to be so suspicious 🙈😂 I think the fake drink thing is a good idea, we do always share and I always pour it down their throats too 🤦‍♀️😂 so I might discuss with my partner if I could just tell those two as they can keep it quiet, I just feel bad telling them and not parents 🙈
Sorry to go on and I know this is very silly and doesnt matter in the grand scheme of all that's going on at the minute but I'm such a worrier letalone with pregnancy added to the mix 🤦‍♀️ thank you, you're all so lovely xxx

How about social bloody distancing?!
Will you be 2m apart in a hot tub?

I appreciate your concern but seeing as it is just the 3 of us in a 6 person tub, public swimming pools open etc I don't think I'll be saying that.

It would be the perfect excuse given that we are still supposed to be staying at least 1 metre apart from those not in our household

I just find it surprising given that you claim to be ‘a worrier’ that the ongoing pandemic wasn’t a thought regarding your friends hot tub party 😂

Ah thanks Nixen, I find it surprising that you feel the need to be rude to strangers on the internet. Guess we're all full of surprises ay 😘

Mumsnet is a wild ride.
Half the threads frothing over someone hugging their nan and then half the threads getting into sex ponds with their pals 😂
I don’t personally care what you do but Covid / social distancing is a much better excuse than antibiotics / driving etc as everyone knows that’s code for pregnant!

Bacterial vaginosis. Green discharge and you absolutely can't drink on the antibiotics they give you to treat it - metronidazole.

@AbbieFB

Bacterial vaginosis. Green discharge and you absolutely can't drink on the antibiotics they give you to treat it - metronidazole.

This - you also have this antibiotic for dental infections and you cannot drink on this one at all!

What temp will the hot tub be? Surely if not scorching you can get in and then as pp suggested a non alcoholic drink in your own flask.

I have 3DC, definitely worried the 3rd time that I was pushing my luck by going for the 3rd.

I'd say you've had a funny tummy (diarrhoea) and don't want to risk drinking or going in the water (supposed to wait 48hours after last toilet episode)

I too would worry about the social distancing, esp as you are now pregnant and more vulnerable!

Have you been drinking/been out with this group since you started BF? Couldnt you just say you need to BF and dont want to drink 'too much'? Then substitute drinks?

If you use the excuse of antibiotics, they are called 'metronidazole' with the brand name of 'flagyl'. They are used for certain dental and certain vaginal infections! They can give you a metallic taste in the mouth, make you feel nauseous and not very nice to have to take!

Many years ago I had them. A day later, after finishing the course, I had some wine with a girlfriend. After 2, small glasses, I was literally crawling around her floor. I had no idea why I felt like I'd downed several bottles. The term 'blind drunk' rung true. I could hear her, but couldnt open my eyes to see her. It was the most awful experience I've had! However, I woke up perky the next day, as only had 2 drinks!!!

If the hot tub night is a while away, I'd plan beforehand. The week leading up to the night, could you get in touch for a friendly chat, and throw in the fact that you've had a vag infection and on these awful antibiotics? Obvioulsy depends how close you are to these girls, whether you feel comfortable lying and talking about a vag infection, but its an option. Keep us posted with what you decide.

Sorry, cross post about the metronidazole.

I can't believe anyone would say they have a vag infection with green discharge as an excuse! I'd rather just admit I'm pregnant.

I would have used breastfeeding as an excuse. If she said pump some milk I’d tell her LO is not taking to bottle today for some reason