Scared of anomaly scan

[Grumpy19]

Hi. So this might seem silly but I'm working myself up into a real state over my anomaly scan on Tuesday.
This is my 4th pregnancy and I am extremely fortunate to have 3 beautiful children but I can't get it out of my head that something bad is going to happen this time.
This pregnancy has been so different from my other 3 so far.
I had a bleed at 12 weeks. (Never bled in any of my other pregnancies)
I have a low Papp-a result so am taking aspirin and will have additional scans in the third trimester.
I have an anterior placenta so have felt very little movement so far.
I know nobody has a crystal ball to tell me all will be well but I just feel like I need to voice these concerns to someone!

I was terrified before my 20 week scan, as an older (36) pregnancy I thought it was all going to go wrong at that point.

I was also anxious from week 20 (when they start resuscitating prem babies) and week 27 (when even if the baby is prem it is highly likely to survive without serious ongoing issues).

DD is now 2 1/2 and absolutely great.

I think it is normal to be anxious and concerned about something that has the potential to have very serious implications, in addition any worries will be amplified by pregnancy hormones.

Just be kind to yourself, get through your scan, see how you feel after, and if you are still struggling talk to your midwife.

Thanks @Cyw2018. I forgot to add I am an older (37years) mum. I was 26 with my first and it's been nearly 7 years since my 3rd so I really do feel older!
I just am finding it hard to envisage a baby at the end of this pregnancy which I could with my others.
I'm really hoping I'm just being hormonal and anxious.

I'm in the exact same situation.

I'm 36 years old and this is my first pregnancy. I'm 20 weeks today and my anomaly scan is in 4 days time (Thursday).

I suffer with anxiety and I just can't get it out of my head that I am going to be given terrible news. I switch between looking forward to the scan and dreading it.

It doesn't help that my local NHS Trust does not allow partners to accompany their pregnant wives/girlfriends during scan/antenatal appointments.. so I'll be doing this all alone next week. I'm sure lots of mums-to-be are in the same situation due to COVID.

@Grumpy19 Let us know how your scan on Tuesday goes. I wish you all the best and I really hope all goes well xx

Yes @TruffleMama, I would feel better if my DH could be with me. I'm so frightened of getting bad news and then me having to break that bad news to DH and DC.
Good luck for Thursday x

Hello, just wanted to let you know that I had a nice 'normal ' scan and all looks well with baby. 🥰

@Grumpy19 only just come across your post but so glad everything was normal today for you! x

That's excellent news @Grumpy19, really pleased for you. You must feel so relieved. Hoping the rest of your pregnancy goes well.

I'll update on Thursday once I've had my 20 week scan. Really hope it goes well and baby is fine. Just typing this now, I can feel my anxiety rising! Wish me luck! xx

Thank you @emma911030 and @TruffleMama.
Wishing you a lovely 'normal ' scan on Thursday. Let me know how you get on x

Hey @Grumpy19

So relieved to say the 20 week scan went well today. The sonographer was happy that baby is developing well and healthily and everything appeared normal and as expected. Finally I can relax and enjoy the rest of the pregnancy!

@TruffleMama that is fab!! Such a relief isn't it. Hope we both relax a bit over the next 20 ish weeks!