Major advice needed!! 3 months post partum!

[ClaudiaRoseAitken]

Hey, so really would love too hear from anyone who has been in a similar position.. I gave birth too my daughter on May the 7th and my plan was too get put on the jaydess (IUD) .. But because off the virus where I stay are not booking appointments because off the virus still!! So my only other option was the pill due too getting severe headaches and blurred vision they wouldn't give me any form off contraception.. I am 6 days late on my period today so done a test. Came back positive.. Went too the shop got more... All positive... My career is an air hostess and I was due too go back too work next month as me and my partner just bought a bigger house together last week may I add now I'm scared in going too loose my job. I just feel so bad and guilty for my daughter I don't know what too do has anyone been in a similar position????

I’m so sorry you’re in a stressful situation OP.

You need to work our two things:

1. Do you want to keep the baby?
2. Can you manage / afford another baby at this time?

If you want the baby and can make it work, then you will be fine. You don’t need to feel guilty about your baby - there are benefits to having a sibling close in age, and while it may be difficult at times you will find a way through.

If you don’t want or can’t manage a baby at this time, there is absolutely nothing wrong with having a termination. It’s absolutely fine for you to prioritise your health and your family’s security if that’s the right thing for you.

I think you should talk to your husband and see how you both feel and what your options are. Please don’t feel guilty - you have paths to choose from, and there is no shame in whatever you do choose.

Yeah your totally right it's a decision we will both need too make... The only reason I am thinking termination is incase I'm out off work. I just can't believe im in this position hopefully in a few days when it sinks in it will be more clearer what too do!!

@ClaudiaRoseAitken no words of wisdom but I'm in similar position (but my baby is a bit older but not by much). Also feeling incredibly guilty/stupid because of my work. Like I'm letting everyone down.

What pp said - do you want the baby, and can you afford it. Another thing to ask is - is your body ready for another pregnancy just 3 months after giving birth? Maybe ask the midwife. You need to stay healthy for your DD.

Sending good vibes for whatever decision you make. There is no wrong answer here by the way, any decision you make will be the right one.