Pregnancy and divorce

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Has anyone decided to divorce their DH and then found out later that they’re pregnant?

We had a week of possible reconciliation but it didn’t work out. It’s not time to do a test yet but I’m wondering if I could be pregnant.

Has this happened to anyone else? What did you decide to do? DH has made it clear that he wants to go it alone now and I’m worried that he’d be concerned about looking like the bad guy for leaving a pregnant woman. Maybe he would want to reconcile but it would only be from guilt.

We already have a nearly 5 and nearly 7 year old. They’re desperate for a younger sibling. To be honest, if the test is negative I will be disappointed!! I would love another baby.

Interested in peoples thoughts or experiences on this.

Perhaps working on your marriage or establishing a stable situation for your two little ones - even if it means divorce- should be a priority right now over having another baby?
I don't want to sound judgmental but i think that it is a little out of place to be wishing to be pregnant from a one week failed reconciliation knowing full well divorce is coming or your husband might decided to stay out of guilt if you were to be pregnant.

I wanted the marriage to work but DH gave me his decision at the end of the week and it was a no.

Yes, him staying out of guilt was my concern too. I think I mentioned it in my OP.

I was just being honest about wanting more children. I definitely won’t be having a termination if I am pregnant.

@User135797
I get that it is not your decision to divorce, and if it were your choice you'd just want your family and a third kid.
But the reality is that your DH seems to be wanting something completely different.
Wanting another baby is normal and i don't blame you, i just think in your situation the reasonable thing to do would be to avoid a pregnancy and to sort out the family situation first.
It would just be unfair for a baby to be born if things aren't working or one of you is unhappy or feels trapped. Even for your two other kids, it wouldn't be an ideal environment, don't you agree?

I’m afraid I agree with the previous poster. If you are pregnant, you and your DH are both accountable for a really irresponsible situation. Your children are going to have enough to contend with in response to the breakdown of their parents’ marriage without the possibility of a new baby being introduced into their lives. However if you’ve already made the decision that you’d continue with the pregnancy regardless then there isn’t much else to say other than to wish you all luck

I think if you feel you can do this on your own then go for it whether you're divorcing or not. Yeah maybe it's not the ideal situation but when is it ever?. Your older kids will be upset by the divorce but having a little brother/sister could be exciting for them something to take their minds off of the situation even if it's for 5 minutes. If I was in your situation I would go for it if it's truly what you want and you know you will cope/manage etc x

Thanks Kim 🙂