Medical miscarriage

[MsK2be89]

Hello, I am due to get tablets tomorrow to start the process. I’ve read a bit online on the NHS website, but would be keen to hear others experiences or tips to deal with it. It sounds horrific 😢 I would have been 10 weeks pregnant. Thanks

I had a MMC in Dec, baby stopped growing at 6 weeks, but I didn’t take the medication until 10weeks.
I was scared from reading all the horror stories online. But it was actually ok, I did need to take the pain medication they gave me and spent the night with a hot water bottle.

I took the tablets on the Thursday, bleeding started pretty much straight away, I had no pain then, I thought wow this is not what they described! Even went carpet shopping.
On Friday there was little to no blood.
Saturday was when the baby actually passed, the cramping was worse then but I would say slightly worse than average period pain.
I found lying down (although more comfortable) didn’t let gravity work, so i spent a fair while on the toilet, which is why I think it passed...

Physically the process was ok, period returned by 6 weeks as suggested.
Emotionally I needed a lot more time to recover, so make sure you take what you need and don’t push yourself too soon!

I’m so sorry for your loss, I know how difficult it can be and I hope things feel brighter for you soon 💐

I’ve had this also and was absolutely fine, pretty minimal pain and bleeding. Way better than I was expecting. Kicked in about 4-5 hours after taking tabs and all done about an hour after that. 2-3 strong cramps was all really. I know a few people who have had this experience but also a few where it’s been more painful - fingers crossed goes well for you too.

@TenThousandSpoons0 @Milkshake54 thank you both of you for sharing your experiences. I am so sorry for your losses & I hope replying to my message hasn’t been to triggering
I have read some absolute horror stories today and made the mistake of looking it up on YouTube where a lady had to have a blood transfusion and was in hospital for a few days. This is where the internet can be scary as you just read and remember the worst. Your stories give me hope, although of course it was very unpleasant for you both.
Wishing you both well xxx

So sorry for your loss @MsK2be89

I had the tabs and they worked straight away. The pain wasn’t horrendous but worse than period pain, 6 hours later I passed loads of large clots and then bleeding tailed off.

Unfortunately for me I didn’t pass everything and 3 weeks later I had to have surgical management for a 4cm piece of retained tissue. Again unfortunately they missed the 4cm tissue and had to have a second surgery with camera to ensure they removed it all. I’m 5 weeks post surgery now and awaiting AF or BFP. I have to add, apparently I’m a small minority and the tabs work for most people.

Hope it goes well for you. X

Hey @TTCROYGBIV thanks for sharing your experience. I really wanted to just have the surgery but because of Covid they said I would need to wait another 3 weeks to do a pregnancy test, followed by a scan, then get booked in the following Monday for surgery. There’s no way I can wait another month, so tablets were my only option really.
Sorry you had to have 2 surgeries, that sounds awful. People have no idea what a miscarriage can be like! They (me included a few weeks ago!) just think it’s bleeding and it’s over. I never heard of different types before now xx

@MsK2be89 it’s such a shit experience and I don’t know anyone who has had a miscarriage let alone anyone who has had medical management or surgical management. For me it’s the mental aspect, I’ve had to hide my miscarriage from my teenager and other child, so I’m like a fizzy bottle of pop waiting to explode.
My only thing getting my through this is trying again. I desperately want another baby. My husbands friend has just announced their having a baby and is nearly half way through, few weeks behind me.
The only true advice I can give is be kind to yourself, take time to heal mentally and physically, take every hug you are offered and remember you will get through this xx

Hi im due to have a medical miscarriage all i have been reading is horror stories online and just wanted some advice on pain and coping with pain
Thank you

Hi so sorry you are having to go through this.

I had medical management back in October. I have had surgical and natural management previously. I tried to pass all 3 miscarriages naturally but had retained products twice. The first time I had the surgical the most emotionally draining, I felt quite traumatised after it was over, and completely out of control.

The medical management was not as bad as I thought it would be, having read the horror stories. Again I was pushed towards this due to Covid, and I was happy i did this so I could have my partner with me. I took the tablet around 11am. Within 40 minutes I had some cramps, quite mild not enough to need painkillers. By 3pm the bleeding had started, normal first day of period amount. At 5pm, I began to pass clots, it was almost like gushes of blood and clots every 10-15 minutes. I used the super long towels and didn't have flooding, but it was a lot more blood than I had first expected. But it was manageable.

The cramps ramped up, again I didn't need medication. This carried on for 4 hours. Cramping and then gushing. By 9pm it was over, pain stopped and bleeding calmed down to a light period amount. I didn't need any painkillers, I did use hot water bottle and tried to walk as much as I could around the house to let gravity help.

The only thing I noticed with the medical management is that the after bleeding seemed to last forever. Not heavy but spotting for 12 weeks on and off.

Hope this helps. And I hope it all goes well for you.

I had medical management in June, I had to spend the day in hospital because I was 17 weeks.
I took the tablets and I’d say within about 45 minutes I was having stomach cramps - slightly stronger than period pain but not as bad as labour pains. I was sat eating lunch and I thought to myself I’ll ask for some paracetamol next time someone comes past. Then I felt like I needed the toilet, I stood up and it was like my waters had broken, scuttled to the toilet and there was another gush and that was it. No real pain and it was all over within an hour and a half of taking the tablets. Then the bleeding tailed off to being like normal period amount. I didn’t have any painkillers and physically felt fine after. I only had to go to the hospital because it was second trimester and they said I wouldn’t have coped with the pain at home! Be gentle to yourself because it is a process ❤️

Thank you im so scared i suffer so badlt from anxiety and health anxiety i juet.domt know if best for me to have 4-6 hoirs of pain or.just go for surgery and habe no pain relief and be over and done with the pain in few mins

Hi so i was told i had a misscarriage at 8 weeks. I was carrying natural convieved identity triplets, first scan showed only one. They told me to wait a week for a natural misscarriage. I went for another scan and they found all three no heart beats. They told me thay couldnt do anything for 2 weeks. And that if it was one child then the outcome of that day would have been diff6and they would have offered me ways to terminate. But instead they said wait two weeks. 3 weeks in total. I went back they said they wil give me a d and c a day later. I tested postive with covid on the day of the op with no symptoms so they cancelled it and said call back the following monday to check for availability because im infectious they need to do it in a seperate room. Called them today and they said yes come on in.

They called me at 10 to 10 and said they couldnt do the d and c because the local anesthetic can cause newmonia. (Cant spell it sorry) and if i required a d and c i would need to wait 7 weeks. So the only option i have is medical management. The tablets. Its pissed me off big time because ive also been told i have a water infection and now on antibiotics. Ive had to wait 4 weeks to get some management. But im worried incase the tablets dont work and i contract sepsis because how are they going to remove the rest of the tissue of i cannot have a d and c.

Im so stressed and i cannot believe ive been treated like this by the nhs

@Ariel30 I'm so sorry to read this it sounds like you've had a horrific time, made even worse by bad treatment. Do you have anyone to support you through this. I think you might benefit from someone advocating on your behalf and raising this with them. If there's no one who can do this contacts PALS at your hospital who should be able to help you or at least get better clarity. Sending well wishes x

I contacted pals recently and it has helped the situation alittle. Staff seem to have been given somw kind of warning. But i have apent three days in hospital and the medical management hasnt worked. I ended up being treated like i had covid although i tested negitive 2x before i went..they locked me in a very hot room too the point o was wet. It was that bad. I was told i could come out the room on my last day but no one clarified it with me and i ended up staying inthere untill i went home. I now have to go back tomorrow morning to try the medical management again. I cannot have surgery as i have previously had covid and i am diabetic so im at high risk. I have no idea what there plan is if this doesnt work. Im so drained and tierd ive had to stay off work and i need some normality in my life 😩