Any 41+ week ladies want to join me?

[Nellie3]

Hi all,

I'm now 41+1, FTM. I always expected be 'overdue' but didn't know how frustrated I would feel!

I've practiced hypnobirth techniques throughout pregnancy and felt ready and in a good head space for birth up until a couple of weeks ago, how nerves and impatience are kicking in which I know isn't ideal for labour starting naturally. I've had on/off cramps and tightnighs each evening for weeks now, and it doesn't seem real that our baby will be born within days. I've had 2 sweeps, not particularly successful, got one more booked for Tuesday and then induction booked on Thursday when I will be 40+12.

It's just a reallly weird time emotionally-trying to relax my body whilst feeling kind of on edge, restless, tired, excited, scared! My husband is kind of edgy too not knowing each time he goes to work if it will be his last before leave.

I know the majority of FTMs go over 40 weeks, I just didn't know I would feel so emotional and wobbly. The messages from friends/family aren't helping either!

Anyone in a similar situation and want a chat?

X

Yup! 40+2 here and soooooo fed up. Twinges for weeks but thats it. Tried sex, pineapple, bouncing on ball, walk, curry but sod all 😫

Yep! 40+1 today and so ready to have the baby now. Ive had cramps, twinges for a couple of weeks now and still no progress. Booked in for a sweep on Wednesday then induction on Saturday if she hasn't arrived on her own. Feeling fed up too, just want her here now!

How are you keeping yourselves distracted? It's so hard not to think about the baby all the time when you are so pregnant 😅.

Today is the first day where I feel kind of 'different' and have had a sore lower tummy/back all day but is usually just the evening, so I'm really hoping it's the start of something. My husband has just gone off to work to do an evening shift though so hopefully not too soon! Xx

I’ve been in bed all day today, feeling really poorly and exhausted! Tho the last few days been like a bear with a sore head!!
Struggling to keep motivated and distracted as i can’t do much now and not a Netflix person so any ideas welcome!

I’m not pregnant anymore Op, I have my 6 week old little squish sleeping on my lap right now! But I was in your situation (he’s my second though)

Was so positive and chilled up til the end. Did all the things - a long walk every day, sex, scrubbing the floors, nipple stimulation, 3 x sweeps.... nothing got him moving although I had WEEKS of false starts. I was really nervous about induction and considered declining but in the end I went for induction at 42 weeks. And it was GREAT.

Because my body was ready I only needed the propess part of induction then the rest was normal. They even let me use the midwife led unit and the birthing pool. Used all my hypnobirthing techniques and labour was not unpleasant at all. About one million times better than first labour.

Good luck - just thought I’d write a note to say induction is not always necessarily bad or scary. Don’t let fear creep in. Concentrate on staying calm. Soon you’ll have a sleepy one snuggled in close to you too!

My DD is keeping me busy through the day (she is 7) but is starting to get bored and is desperate to meet her sister too.

Im in a lot of pain some days in my pelvis - midwife said its the babys head getting engaged. Ive never known pain like it! I also feel exhausted and can feel sicky throughout the day too, hoping its not long to go now. Nervous about induction if she doesn't come before, even more so that i will have to go in on my own!

Thank you @Magpiefeather for your postive responce about your induction and congratulations ❤

No worries @Rainbow714!

I was the same, but should have also said I actually quite liked being on my own when labour got going, I could just completely focus inwards and not think about anything else. Last bit went quick and we live an hour from hospital so dh only got there for last ten mins but that was great!

Four days overdue now and still no signs as my baby, midwife again this afternoon and im spending my day bouncing on my ball.

How you doing @CountryGirl36 and @Nellie3?? X

6 days over, had a sweep yest and done sod all so booked in for a second Friday! So bloody miserable!!

I feel you, really do. Every day im like is this the day?!? Then nothing! They must be way too comfy in there. Im having a sweep this afternoon, then induction Saturday if she hasn't arrived when i will be 41 weeks.

Hi ladies, jumping on to say I feel your pain! FTM, 40+4 today and I feel so discouraged. Baby has been engaged for weeks but my body isn't playing ball. No cramps, twinges, nothing.

I went to triage for monitoring yesterday as I hadn't felt her move for hours. MW offered induction which I said I was trying to avoid, she took this as declining and didn't offer any options or opinions and attempted a sweep, but my cervix was not effaced at all so she couldn't do it. Booked in for another sweep tomorrow with my regular MW and then more monitoring on Saturday, i'm thinking about asking for induction early next week, but have no idea if it would be successful if my cervix is still closed for business? I feel very stressed about the whole thing, like my body is failing at it's job, which isn't helping.

Not in this boat at the minute (I’m 33 weeks with number2)

My son was born exactly 42 weeks, I was fed up and felt like a giant hippo for those last few weeks.
However the labour and birth were natural and fine and I managed to avoid an induction by going into labour on my own the morning I was due to be induced.

Once baby is here those extra weeks will be all forgotten.

Ahh I'm still feeling your pain everyone!! I'm now 41+4 and have had 3 sweeps which weren't particularly successful as my cervix was still long etc. They said I was 1cm but only just and they couldn't do a proper sweep.

I'm booked for an induction tomorrow evening and nerves are kicking in now which isn't beneficial for the situation. I'm trying to think positively, but mainly worried about being on my own with out my husband being there. There was talk of a balloon catheter being inserted initially to kick this off, and maybe being allowed to go home over night with this in but they can't confirm until I'm there and examined etc so I won't know whether to say bye to my husband or not. I'm reallly hoping labour starts tonight or tomorrow and trying to think positively, don't know what I'll do with myself tomorrow otherwise!

Hope you don't mind but am jumping on this thread, am 40+2 today. Feeling rather massive & am starting to worry as baby is still high.
Baby not engaged, I thought baby would have been by now.
Midwife appt 2moro. Am a FTM, ladies do I ask for a sweep at my appt 2moz? Nothing has been said at all about sweeps or induction at my appts & feeling pretty clueless 😏

@Nellie3 my midwife couldn't perform my sweep on her first attempt neither as she wasn't engaged. Had another today, she could perform it today - had cramps and tightenings since. Im booked in for induction at the weekend too and feel ever so nervous - i don't think it helps that we have to go alone. Good luck tomorrow, hope everything goes to plan and you get to meet your baby soon. Try getting some rest tonight.
@Chocforthewin completly up to you about a sweep my midwife couldn't perform one on my due date as she was still high up - but managed today at 40+4 wasn't the most pleasent thing but was over quickly and im hoping it works. Good luck x

So looks like induction is happening.. going in tonight at 10pm to have a balloon catheter put in (I haven't heard of many places using this but apparently it is 'kinder' than going straight in with the chemicals according to the midwife). I might be able to go home over night and see if things progress, or might have to stay in but they wont know til they've assessed me. I'm mainly worried about going in on my own and saying bye to my husband 😓. Trying to think positively and trying to believe I will actually have a baby soon-still doesn't feel real atall.

@Rainbow714 how are you getting on? Xxx

Good luck @nellie3 and @rainbow714!

My cervix is still long & closed so midwife couldn't do a sweep today either. She booked in my induction for Tuesday, when I'll be 41+3. I'm still hoping I'll go into spontaneous labour before then, but I doubt it. I feel better having a definite end date in sight though.

I've also got to go to the hospital for a pre-induction Covid test and ctg monitoring on saturday, I'm not looking forward to the test as have heard bad things!

Hi guys! The sweep was succesful, contractions started five hours after and was the fastest labour and quickest delivery i could of imagined. She is now 3 days old and is just perfect. How are you getting on? Hope you have met your babies by now too ❤