Begging to find out baby name!

[JLB88]

I’m not sure if this annoys anyone else as much as me but I am sick to death of people going on and on about wanting to know my babies name.

I didn’t mind people asking in the first instance but me and my partner made it clear from the beginning we weren’t going to tell anyone for various reasons but since then certain family members have just been constantly asking and trying to guess. This is despite me repeating I don’t want to tell anyone.

What makes it worse is I am not good at keeping a straight face so feel very anxious when people start trying to guess. I just feel like I’m being rail roaded into telling everyone.

This was mostly just a rant to get this annoyance off my chest , thanks for reading haha!!

Good. Don't tell them. We told them ours and it was not a nice reaction we had and it was discouraging as hell.

Yes I’ve been having this too. It’s infuriating. I have even been called ‘precious’ for not discussing it 🤷‍♀️

Just say you haven't decided yet.

Or if you've already told them you have chosen a name then sau you've went off it now.

People are really annoying with this tho. So I get you!

Probably a good idea! I did say the other day that we had several in our minds so hopefully they shut up. Just frustrating as i feel like by me requesting them not to ask they should respect that.

Just tell them Donald out of respect.

We told people ds was Oleg after the meerkat ad!!

Just tell them a different name or say it’s down to two, then just say you changed your mind when your baby’s born and you reveal the real name.

Tell them you haven’t decided yet. Or just that you don’t want to tell people until the baby is born. I actually really dislike when everyone already knows what the sex and name of the baby is before they’re even born, I can’t put my finger on why but it irritates me.

Esmerelda or Ernesto, Lilo and Leonard?
Just make up two names and watch them squirm when they don't like them.

We just gave them a couple that we liked and said we'd choose when baby arrived

I have to say though that those that tend to not want to say anything for fear of the reaction they will get have often chose made up/ misspelt/ or names which are quite controversial anyway?

Just say you've not decided. People love talking about baby names. List a few names you like (but not your chosen one), let them make their suggestions and go "ooh yes those are great!" and then the conversation moves on. It's like people who find out the sex and then say they're keeping it a secret but get annoyed that everyone asks them all the time- say you don't know and it stops being a problem.

We said it would be Margaret or Winston. Make something up

Wouldn't it be more simple to say we haven't decided yet?

Better that than yes we've chosen but we aren't telling anyone cos we want to keep it our secret

Just say we're waiting till the baby's born and see what suits.

We had similar when we decided we wanted to keep the sex a surprise from everyone until the baby arrived, I got asked daily, I got asked in various says such as 'do I need to buy pink or blue', my MIL moaned as she 'didn't know what to buy'...(we didn't want anything from her!) And a family member also tried to trick us into telling them when we were playing word association.....soooo annoying!
Your baby, your decision my Lovely, no one else needs to know, and you may change your mind once baby arrives which would end up being a drama for them!
Congratulations!

I don't blame you. People are so damned nosey. And I don't get being sneaky and asking by trying to trick you.

We've decided to keep the sex secret, apart from close family, and have only told MIL the name we want our baby to have. We love the fact we've kept it secret as it's something we can share.

MIL loved the first name, hated the second name, but understands it's our choice so obviously doesn't care. She just wants baby to be happy and healthy.

Keep your secret. It's no one else's business.

Just say, you have a name in mind but want to meet the little person before you finally decide.
Say you don't know the sex.

This was one of the reasons we didn’t find out the sex, as it kept the door ‘open’ on names as it were. I’ve also been telling people we have a shortlist for each - which is rubbish, we’ve had the first names at least picked out since about 16 weeks

Just give them some fake options for a boy or a girl and leave it at that. When baby arrives just announce the name.

You could give jokey suggestions like Philip for a boy, Elizabeth for a girl
or Boris and Brenda or something

Yep we’ve had this too. I think it’s partly curiosity, but also family members wanting to connect with the baby by being able to call it a name (which is what many parents-to-be do; our baby’s name started off as our jokey name for the foetus). We’ve responded the same to everyone - firmly no we aren’t telling before the birth, but happy for people to refer to baby as an in-joke name among themselves. So my maternal family have a name for baby and my partner’s family have a name they use.

@Luckystar1

Yes I’ve been having this too. It’s infuriating. I have even been called ‘precious’ for not discussing it 🤷‍♀️

I do think it's a bit precious. The more secretive you are about it the more unnecessarily big a deal it becomes. But then people also need to not go on about it. If I knew someone had decided and refused to say I would think they were being previous but I wouldn't ask them again.

I think it is just making conversation and a bit of nosiness.
A new baby is good news, and people want to feel involved.

There are certain things that people usually ask like "When's it due?', 'Was it planned?" "Do you know what you're having', 'Are you going to have a caesarian?', 'Do you know what you're going to call it?',
'Are you disappointed it's not a girl/boy?' , etc.