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Am I pregnant? So scared

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Unitedtemperature124 · 14/08/2020 03:27

Hi
I know this will sound crazy but I really need some help. I’m 19 and have just finished my first year at a really good uni and I love it. My family are very religious.
Around 23 weeks ago my ex boyfriend slept over, and although we didn’t have sex, I may have gotten into contact with his “soldiers” due to general making out and sleeping together. We weren’t very careful. I took EllaOne two days later but I had already ovulated by then as I got my period 10 days later.
I’ve had 3 normal 30 day cycles since and including then, although lighter periods, and now for two consecutive periods I’ve had 40-45 day cycles. I’m so worried and I know this will sound silly but I really have nowhere else to go to for any advice.
I am unable to get a pregnancy test until the end of next week. I’ve only started to get really worried now because I hadn’t properly analysed my period checker app.
Does anyone think I could be pregnant? And are there any at home pregnancy tests I could maybe try? I’m freaking out and I can’t sleep or think or anything. Please help

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Unitedtemperature124 · 14/08/2020 03:31

My tummy doesn’t look any different, I’ve always had quite a bit of tummy fat. I can’t remember feeling sick. Would it be obvious to me by now?

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Aquamarine1029 · 14/08/2020 03:31

It really doesn't sound like you're pregnant. Just get a test as soon as possible to confirm.

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Unitedtemperature124 · 14/08/2020 03:32

There’s no obvious reason other than pregnancy why my period would suddenly be 10 days longer for two consecutive periods, which is why it’s really scaring me

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Aquamarine1029 · 14/08/2020 03:35

There’s no obvious reason other than pregnancy why my period would suddenly be 10 days longer for two consecutive periods, which is why it’s really scaring me

By you're still having periods. Your cycle can change for loads of reasons. Stress, hormonal changes, etc. Right now, you're worrying about something before you even know what's going on. Go get a test first thing in the morning.

calimommy · 14/08/2020 03:56

You had three normal cycles following the incident as you described -those alone would give you cause to relax. Two longer cycles subsequently could be related to stress, food, general health etc etc. A test might put your mind at ease, but I don't believe you have cause for concern.

TenThousandSpoons0 · 14/08/2020 04:52

You can buy a home pregnancy test at any pharmacy or supermarket. It will be negative, agree with PP.

nachthexe · 14/08/2020 04:57

You aren’t pregnant. Stress and uncertainty and all sorts of things rampant in life right now can make your cycle wig out. Take a test, but you aren’t pg. I used to get like this.

chatterbugmegastar · 14/08/2020 06:14

How could you possibly be pregnant? Do some biology lessons so that you understand how your body works

bumpyknuckles · 14/08/2020 06:26

You're 19, so your periods are still settling down. I found an old diary of mine from that time recently and I'd logged my periods. They were all over the place! I also seemed convinced I was pregnant all the time...

Today, get yourself a pregnancy test to put your mind at rest. And book an appointment to see the doctor and get some contraception.

bumpyknuckles · 14/08/2020 06:28

You can get a pregnancy test from virtually any shop by the way. Or order them from Amazon (who will deliver in discrete packaging).

CatteStreet · 14/08/2020 06:30

I recognise my younger self in you, OP, with some differences (no religious influence in my case) This fear is a symptom of your having had (literally in your case, it seems) the fear of God put into you by your family over doing things you're 'not supposed' to. You've internalised this stuff to the extent that your mind is disciplining you, as your family would if they knew, by applying the punishment you 'should' have for exercising your own sexuality.

It's very, very, very, very unlikely you're pregnant. Cycles can do surprising things. But I would advise some reflection on your upbringing and where you, as an autonomous individual, now stand in relation to it. Good luck.

FWIW I usually have an absolutely textbook 26-27-day cycle. Last autumn my period suddenly stayed away for over 2 weeks. Numerous pregnancy tests were done, although no contraception failure. It turned up as if nothing had happened and has been back to textbook since. I'm a good deal older than you (just about old enough to be your mother) but our bodies move in mysterious ways.

Scirocco · 14/08/2020 07:34

It's very unlikely that you're pregnant from what you've described. Menstrual cycles can be very easily affected by stress, so it could well be that all the worry you're feeling is part of what's knocking your cycle off its usual routine. Once you can get a test, I'm sure that will help put your mind at ease (maybe get two, because if you're a bit of a worrier like I am, that should help you feel confident in the results - 2 false negatives would be very very unlikely). If your period doesn't get back to normal in the next cycle or two, maybe speak with your GP and see if they have any advice.

AriettyHomily · 14/08/2020 07:50

Ella one totally cocked up my cycles for about 8 months. I very much doubt you're pregnant but take a test for peace of mind. If you can't get to a shop order one from amazon.

Soldiers??!!

biscuit13 · 14/08/2020 08:39

@Unitedtemperature124 hey I think it would be very unlikely, try a first reponse test with morning wee or hold it for a good fee hours before doing the test. I really don't think you have anything to worry about.
Honestly when me and my boyfriend (now husband) weren't trying for a baby i used to sometimes get longer cycles, or even miss a period altogether because i was stressing so much that maybe we had an accident. All those times it was fine, but just worrying about it over the last few months could be causing your longer cycles.
So i would do the test to put your mind and rest and then try to forget about it. 😊

Junegirl20 · 14/08/2020 11:53

Doesn't sound like you are pregnant.
I had longer cycles and short menstrual time. I had scans and they didn't find anything... So could just be your body changing and stress related as previously adviced.
However with long cycles like yours it definitely worth speaking to your GP to see if they want to investigate

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Unitedtemperature124 · 14/08/2020 12:35

Thank you so much everyone. I do feel a bit better now. I’m going to get a test ASAP so that I can be sure.

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biscuit13 · 16/08/2020 08:27

@Unitedtemperature124 hey did you take a test? How did it go? X

RiteAid · 16/08/2020 08:36

If definitely doesn’t sound like you’re pregnant OP - to have had a couple of periods since the last time you were anywhere near sperm makes it hugely unlikely. And since you didn’t have sex it’s very unlikely (not impossible, but very unlikely) that sperm got anywhere near your cervix.

Periods can be delayed for loads of reasons that aren’t always obvious. I once had mine delayed by about 12 days (I’m usually completely regular) and was absolutely convinced I was pregnant (despite multiple negative tests). I saw my gp in the end and she did a blood test which showed that my prolactin level was raised. This is a hormone usually associated with breastfeeding, but it can also rise in response to stress, and that can delay periods.

There are lots of other reasons too - sudden variations even in a usually regular cycle aren’t normally a reason for concern.

If you really want to put your mind at rest you can get a pregnancy test to do at home (you can order these from amazon or, if you’re worried about your family opening your post, you can buy from any pharmacy or supermarket) and make an appointment with your GP to discuss your irregular cycle.

It is also worth considering a form of contraception like the pill or the implant, which will give you another element of peace of mind in the future.

Try not to worry too much - I do understand the anxiety at your age but nothing you have said suggests any likelihood of pregnancy to me.

Giganticshark · 20/08/2020 10:04

How'd you get on op?

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Unitedtemperature124 · 21/08/2020 11:51

Hi. I’d been worrying so much and today I finally took two tests. Clear blue and first response, digital and manual. Both negative. So relieved but just want to check, there’s no way I could have two negative tests at this stage right ? Because I just read something about the hook effect. Sorry I’m sure you can tell I’m a bit of a psycho but I need some reassurance please.

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Giganticshark · 21/08/2020 14:33

You didn't have sex, you took the MAP, you have had regular periods (albeit a few days out, totally normal!), you have zero symptoms.

And now a negative pregnancy test.
Please don't worry, you are not pregnant.
Have you spoken to anyone about proper protection?

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Unitedtemperature124 · 24/08/2020 15:24

@Giganticshark Thank you. I am trying not to worry. I think it’s all psychological but it’s been driving me crazy.
Yes, I’m going to be a lot more sensible and get a reliable form of contraception.

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Holyrivolli · 24/08/2020 15:38

@Unitedtemperature124. I know other people think it sounds crazy but I empathise entirely.

I’m considerably older than you but went through a similar experience earlier this year. I was suddenly convinced that I was pregnant even though I had bullet proof contraception in place, had continued to have periods and had tested negative. I too started looking a hook effect and ended up paying £100 for a private scan to put my mind at rest.

I think that I had just put on a lot of lockdown weight and was so terrified that I was pregnant.

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