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11 weeks, feel so low

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Beanplant · 13/08/2020 09:09

Hi, I'm roughly 11 weeks on with 3rd pregnancy which was planned albeit it happened far quicker than I imagined.
I was very happy to have the positive test and this is definitely a much wanted baby however since not long after finding out, maybe about 7 weeks, I have felt so low. Just not happy. I'm not depressed but it's such a horrible blanket feeling that was nothing like my other 2 pregnancies (2x DD) and it's now affecting my work as I have withdrawn from the team and feel an all round resentment of everyone except my closest family for no apparent reason. I work with a reasonable size team and the public so this is a major struggle. I have had to tell a few colleagues now as I have been struggling and it's been noticed which is really not what I wanted to do. I don't feel excited when I get a congratulations and I'm so worried this may carry on and affect me and the baby and our bond. It doesn't feel like I can just talk myself out of it and put my chin up. Work is very tough for all reasons at the moment (for all staff) and is the only source of stress, other than that there is nothing im concerned about/unhappy about...apart from this feeling.
Can anyone offer a similar experience or reassurance please?

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567ap · 14/08/2020 11:17

Week 10-11 I was so blue and down. The horrid first trimester symptoms are there and it's too early to tell everyone. After your scan and as you enter 13-14 weeks your hormones do quieten down and you'll start to feel yourself. Hang in there! I only started to get excited at 13 weeks...

emilyvictoria17 · 14/08/2020 11:44

So sorry you’re feeling this way OP. Not much I can offer by way of advice except to keep talking - it’s good you told some colleagues, confide in a supportive manager too if you can? And lean on friends / family / partner if you can. There’s absolutely no shame in not jumping for joy over your news. It’s a lot to get your head around and a really weird time all round. Go easy on yourself - this too shall pass x

emilyvictoria17 · 14/08/2020 11:46

Worth letting your midwife know too in case they can direct you to some more structured support if you feel you need it. Good luck x

Poppyismyfavourite · 14/08/2020 11:47

I felt totally shite 9-12 weeks. Not sick really, just tired and 'down' and couldn't concentrate at all.
Much better now at 13 weeks!

Beanplant · 15/08/2020 20:55

Thank you for your reassurance. I have my scan this week and will talk to my boss on Monday I think. I am a bit worried it could be ante-natal depression now although equally it's obviously not unheard of to feel like this and it may pass. I think I'll see how the next few weeks go and if it's not improving I'll speak to the midwife. Thank you x

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emilyvictoria17 · 16/08/2020 09:25

You got this xx

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