Anyone pregnant after late loss - how long did it take?

[KerryW87]

Hi,

So, I know that other people's stories can't predict nor guarantee you the same outcomes, but I'm just really struggling at the moment and looking for some people who have been in a similar boat?

On 19th July I gave birth to my wee boy at 18 weeks. I'm lucky enough to have two older children (10 and 8) who keep me and my partner going and family and friends etc have said it's great to see me doing "better" which I'm really happy about because I don't like them to worry, but to be honest I'm really struggling and just feel so devastated still.

My partner and I have decided we really do want and need to try again. I wondered if anyone has been through similar, had a successful pregnancy and could share their stories? It took us 6 months to conceive last time which I know isn't too long, I'm just anxious about how it'll go this time after a late miscarriage. Thanks, everyone :)

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your son.
We lost our first baby, a boy, last October at 22 weeks due to PPROM.
I didnt do any counselling, but many people find it helpful. It was offered to me through the hospital but I declined. My bereavement midwife said I could take up the offer at any point should I change my mind. At the time I was having private therapy as I lost my father a few months previously so I continued with that for a short while. Although I didn't find it especially helpful for me in terms of either of my grieving processes.
I fell pregnant again in January. I am now 32 weeks pregnant with a baby girl. Everything appears to be going much better this time. We didnt track ovulation or anything. I didnt want to put any pressure on myself or my partner. We just let it be and we are so so fortunate that it happened again very quickly for us.
We have been looked after by fetal medicine consultant and midwife during this pregnancy and I cannot fault my care, even with covid-19.