10+ 3 and symptoms have disappeared

[CaramelB]

I'm a wreck. Over the last 10 days all my symptoms have pretty much disappeared. I went from hypersensitive smell, constant nausea and really painful boobs to nothing. I had a one of bout of brown discharge on Monday followed by cramps over night but nothing else. Called EPU and they just said they think it was the little haemorrhage they picked up on the early scan at 5 weeks and i have to wait for my scan next week.

I'm just super worried now because I haven't even had any of the twinges/stretching sensations for a few days. I thought i was starting to get my bump as my lower abdomen had been super hard weeks 8/9 but now it's soft again. I've had 2 private reassurance scans at 7 and 9 weeks- (4th last week) and got to see the baby wiggle and HR was 171 beats per minute. I felt really good after that till the brown discharge on Monday 10th and I've been petrified since. OH doesn't want me to book another private scan as he says he doesn't want the baby bothered incase something is wrong but I'm losing my mind.

Was that brown discharge a miscarriage? Is it normal for stretching to stop this long? Should I just prepare myself for the worst? I'm sorry for sounding crazy, i just don't know what to do

Symptoms can ease off around this time and can then return a bit later.
Sorry you are so worried. Lots of women do experience bleeding and all is fine.
At 12 weeks I had a bright red gush of blood followed by a week of pink / brown spotting but the baby was fine at my scans and I'm 17 weeks today.
Hope all is well for you x

I've always been told by my midwife brown discharge isn't a worry as its old blood. I've also seen many a post from women on here saying they had bright red/pink bleeds and went on to have healthy babies.

I had a bleed at 16 weeks that sounded similar (currently at 18 weeks) but it stopped after a couple of days and we went for a private scan and they confirmed all was okay.

I'm sure it will be fine, but I completely understand where you're coming from and that you just want to know everything is okay.

If you can hold out til your scan next week then that's an option, if not though I don't think there's any harm going for a private one again if it'll help you feel better. X

Hi, thank you for your kind words. I'm trying to stay positive but I'm also starting to lose hope. I had pinkish discharge just after midnight then a little spotting throughout the day till half an hour ago. Now I've got increased brownish discharge and mild cramping. Called EPU and they just said i have to monitor it myself till next week. The options were if the bleeding stops, wait till scan next week or if I keep bleeding I should do a test in a week to see if it's negative. If it's positive I should let my midwife know.

I feel like I'm losing it. I didn't expect to just be left in limbo. At this point I just want to know either way.

Can you book a private scan? I had similar to you - brown discharge, not much at all, and symptoms eased off, and sadly at my scan it was confirmed as a missed miscarriage at 10+2.

One thing I found helpful from one of the midwives at the EPU was that as much as anyone can google or ask for reassurance, no-one can tell what's going on with that particular woman in those circumstances.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's so stressful. In hindsight, I wish I'd booked a private scan a week or so before I found out we'd lost the baby. I had a week of feeling something wasn't right, then trying to convince myself that I was just being paranoid.

Really really hope everything is fine with the pregnancy.

Is your scan at the beginning of next week or the end?
If the blood is still brown try not to lose hope x

My symptoms disappeared around the 10 week mark for about 5-7 days then returned one morning with a vengeance.
I wouldnt worry too much. Everyone is different and some dont have any symptoms at all but still have healthy babies x

I bled from start to finish in my last pregnancy due to an ecotropian. I’m currently 10 weeks with my second and bleeding again. I had a scan last week and all was well. Many people experience light bleeding throughout pregnancy and it’s all fine.

Hi everyone, @Grumpy19 my scan is on the 20th. I have been going back and forth about a private scan but I'm so scared of getting bad news in a commercial place because the place we have been to is very small. The 2 times we have been, I've been able to hear other couple's heartbeats etc.

@DappledOliveGroves I'm sorry you had to go through that. I hope you don't mind me asking how your body was after? I've not had anything since the 13th and I noticed I'm having that egg white discharge instead of the thicker one I've had all along. I wasn't sure if this was what happens but I'm also on a high dose of antibiotics for a skin issue and wondered if that would make any difference to CM. Woke up to my breasts tender today which I didn't expect and feel so confused about. Besides my breasts today, I don't feel pregnant which is sad. I do have nausea but I'm not sure if it's my body or the antibiotics.

I've spent the last few days trying to come to terms with the fact that it most likely will be a bad outcome but a little part of me hopes it's all fine.

@CaramelB I'm so sorry you're anxious. Are there any other places that do a private scan that would be more private that you could go to?

In hindsight, my breasts were slightly less sore, but I still had some nausea on and off even though by that point the baby had been dead for at least a week. My backache which had been awful from the minute I got pregnant disappeared, but I put it down to having been the the chiropractor and getting it sorted. Discharge-wise, it became less of the pregnancy discharge (which had been quite a lot) and I got more brown/fawn sporting. I was also much less tired, but then I think that often happens at that stage when the placenta kicks in.

I felt less bonded to the pregnancy than I had with my first pregnancy with DD, and I was wary of taking photos of the small bump and held off buying any maternity stuff - I think I felt deep down that something wasn't right, but then again it may be that I've thought this more since losing the baby.

It's so hard. I really really hope that everything goes well with your pregnancy and you find out that the baby is healthy and that you have no need to worry.

@DappledOliveGroves my boobs had been less tender before this which prompted us to have the scan at 9+2. If anything I'm glad i got the heartbeat in a plush toy so if we got bad news at least we have something.

I've had cramps and back pain pretty much throughout but they said it was most likely pain sensitivity due to fibromyalgia, i currently still have back pain. The main thing I noticed is the pelvic pressure is gone but the EPU midwife said it might have been caused by a haemorrhage they picked up on in at early scan. As for the discharge part, I was on Google all night trying to find other women's experiences because I found it odd that I had the brown discharge Monday and Thursday, pregnancy type in-between then the egg white type immediately after.

This truly is a horrible place to be. We had been trying for 3yrs and i couldn't believe it finally happened. I too had a weird detachment throughout this pregnancy because it seemed too good to be true after all the struggles we had. I had got 2 maternity lounge trousers as the bloat/belly was so extreme, most of my clothes were tight around the waist but now I feel so stupid, almost like I jinxed it. It has been a very stressful time, i don't even know if i could go through this all over again.

Anyway, what can we do? I will just wait till Thursday. I will try to stay sane till then. Will give you an update once I know x

@CaramelB - thinking of you. What time's your scan today?

@DappledOliveGroves thanks for checking in, it was at 14:50. I was such a nervous blubbering wreck by the tike I got there because my dad had a stroke this morning so the day was just crazy. I also had the worst cramps I've ever experienced yesterday, i was convinced it was the end so I was shocked when I saw the little baby dancing away on the screen. I cried the whole way through the scan because I just couldn't believe everything was ok. I measured 4 days ahead so apparently I'm 12+1 now which was interesting because so far since 7 weeks they have given me 3 due dates 😂. Turns out the bleeding was from the haemorrhage, it was completely gone today so I hope I won't have anymore issues.

The last 10 days have been the worst ever and I'm really grateful that I had you ladies to sound off on when I was losing hope. It literally kept me going during what my husband is now calling my "psychotic break"

Awww. I'm so pleased for you!!
My dad had a heart attack and stroke when I was 6 weeks pregnant and the stress was massive but he has made a really good recovery so I hope your dad does too.

@CaramelB I'm so so happy for you! Wishing you a healthy and happy pregnancy 🥰