Hi all I need some advice. I'll give some background information. I am 35 and have been single 3 1/2 years since divorcing from my husband. I have 2 children a 9 year old boy and a 5 year old girl. Just over 2 years ago I started a casual relationship with a guy i had known for a few months through mutual friends. We agreed at the time that we both didnt want a serious relationship. My relationship with my ex was abusive and he was very controlling. Since splitting up I have made a good life for myself I have made new friends and started to have a social life for the first time in years. I like being on my own and dont feel I ever want to live with someone or have a serious relationship again.
Me and this guy have been friends with benefits for over 2 years. At first it was just sex but after a few months we began to see each other more often usually 1/2 times a week and would often go out for drinks and food and I would stay over at his. We both agreed it was only a casual relationship as we both want different things. He is happy being in single for now but has said he wants to settle down in the next few years and get married and have kids and that is not what I want.
I have now found out I am pregnant about 5 weeks despite being on the pill and dont know what to do. I'm worried about how people will react especially my parents. They help me so much with my 2 kids to enable me to work and I cant expect them to help with another child.
I also dont know how he will react and am scared of telling him.
I have thought about abortion but I know that is not something I could do. Has anyone been in a previous situation or have any advice. Thanks