Can't stand being touched by anybody!

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Currently 25 weeks pregnant and cannot stand anybody atall touching me/ getting too close, including DH, and DC. It's causing huge problems with DH as he thinks it is something I am making a conscious decision on but the feelings are completely involuntary. Anytime he gets within a few metres of me my skin stands on edge. I can just about bite my tongue enough for a hug but I'm instantly counting down until it feels we have hugged long enough that I can get away.
Is this normal? And what can I do to get over it before it completely destroys my marriage

Anybody have any suggestions?

What’s causing the problem? Did you like being touched before?

Was completely fine before being pregnant, it's almost as if as soon as I found out I was pregnant being touched by anybody makes me feel physically sick.

Guessing it's just me then

I'm a lot earlier on than you, but I've completely lost my sex drive; and have started to find my partner clingy and so irritated when he wants to hug, touch me or be intimate. Its causing us a few problems.

I want to sit alone and sleep alone! I am fine with the odd hug though.

maybe yours is possibly subconsciously connected to the lockdown?
I'm guessing due to current restrictions you havent really had anyone else hug you recently? Its just a thought....

Not just you OP. I'm 16 weeks and since I found out at 6 weeks I've been the same. I can't stand kissing dp or having him touch me, I don't even like the kids touching me. I feel so guilty because my youngest is quite cuddly and I feel like I should be enjoying his cuddles and kisses and I just can't. It's a horrible feeling.
I've never been one for people touching me, but have never felt that way with my kids. I would like to put a big bubble around me so no one could get near me at the moment.

Hi OP,
I'm 9 weeks so quite early on but since I found out I'm pregnant I've been the exact same. I feel terrible because he'll ask for a hug at night when we get into bed and I act like he's just asked me to run a marathon😂

I told him until I know everything's ok with baby then I'm not interested in having sex but even after having my scan a few days ago and knowing everything's as well as can be, I still haven't gone there 😩 I have no sex drive whatsoever.

Hopefully it's just something that will pass once the babies are here. Will have to keep counting down with the hugs until then haha!

I felt exactly like this but after I had actually had my baby (maybe for the first 2 or 3 months pp). I was exactly the same though like seriously did not want to be touched or cuddled or kissed or anything! Even started to worry I had fallen out of love with my DH or something! However it all got back to normal after a while and I really do put it down to my hormones just being all over the place! And of course your hormones are haywire during pregnancy too, so it could just be that. Try not to panic, just give it time and I'm sure things will feel normal again soon xxx

It will just be hormonal. Just talk to your dh about it. You're growing his child, he'll just have to understand and get over any hurt feelings.

I had hyperemesis and was EXACTLY like this!

DH made me feel claustrophobic and he is not a touchy guy. Before pregnancy I would regularly complain he didn’t touch/hug me enough.

DS is 5 months now and my marriage still isn’t in a good place.

No you are not alone. I still feel deeply in love with my DH but any touch instantly puts me on edge. Even just a hand on my leg feels like hot lava and I want it off, poor guy. The only difference is my dc though still want to cuddle & kiss my dc all the time.

I think it's some prehistoric protective pregnancy instinct thing to subconsciously protect the baby.

So very pleased to read I'm not the only one though I was feeling very guilty!

DH doesn't seem to understand it atall and just feels like I've pushed him away now that I'm pregnant. I've really tried to kind of bite my tongue so we can have a hug now and again but it feels like I just want to run away as soon as he gets close. Have another 14 weeks until baby is due don't know how we are going to survive! It's definitely a relief to know it's not just me though!

I wouldn't assume it will get better when you have a newborn op.
Your DH will just need to understand.

There are other ways you can reassure DH that you still love and care for him without physical touching. I'd explain to him it's temporary and may last whilst baby is still very small. (You'll be knackered and a tiny new human will be the centre of your world after all)

In the meantime other acts like leaving him little love post it notes, paying compliments, little gestures of kindness like buying a food he likes can offer some reassurance. (Sorry if that all sounds a bit Victorian)

Feeling like this in pregnancy isn't a signpost that it's the end of your marriage - it's just the reality of having babies imo.

I’m a little bit the same. I can’t stand people in my personal space now and my skin feels so sensitive I don’t like people touching me. Your body is already being taken over by one little human, let alone others getting in your face.

I can relate to this a bit, I am 12+4, sex drive almost non existent apart from 1 random Saturday recently where I was up for it. I definitely need my space from OH at the moment, I was thinking the heat probably doesn't help much either but I think it might be hormonal too. Try not to worry too much and just communicate.