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Pregnant again after missed miscarriage

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Mammy2twoxox · 04/08/2020 15:03

Hi please can have some help or advice or even reassurance because I really really need it right now. I previously missed miscarried in February I lost baby 9 and half weeks and found out I was pregnant again in April I’m now 16 weeks pregnant I can’t seem to shake the pure fear I have. I have a clear bump now and I can feel movement I think but it still doesn’t shake this fear I have. I’ve had one midwife appointment and one was cancelled and done over the phone... and she said I will see you when you are 28 weeks I was shook because I thought I needed needles and urine samples etc... I’ve had one private scan and also a normal scan and everything went really well but again I’m constantly worrying that I might lose my baby again, I get pains that come and go, my back is constantly hurting, I leak what I think is discharge and sometimes when I go to the toilet there is a jelly like clear blob on the tissue and my mind goes into overdrive. Please is this normal? I’m sorry for all the questions but I am petrified also I may add that I use a fetal heart beat Doppler yes I know not a good idea but I thought it would reassure me and sometimes it does. I did my research on them to look out for my own heart beat, the womb sounds and baby’s heart beat etc... and thank god I always find it but I can’t help but still worry. My next scan is the 1st of September which I feel like is ages away is there any advice because it’s appreciated very much and also what you did to keep yourselves distracted and busy etc... thank you for reading.

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Sansa87 · 04/08/2020 15:50

I have no advice. I’m recovering from surgical management after a mmc.

I desperately want to have our rainbow baby, however I know I’m going to feel exactly like you feel. I absolutely won’t enjoy my pregnancy.

Didn’t just want to read and run. Massive love xxx

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Mammy2twoxox · 04/08/2020 15:54

Aww honestly I’m so sorry for your loss, it’s absolutely heart breaking I hope you find comfort and I hope you get your happy ever after, sending love to you. Thank you so much for reaching out xxx

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ZooKeeper19 · 04/08/2020 19:01

@Mammy2twoxox I was in your shoes. Honestly it did not go away until birth but got heaps better when I could feel the baby moving (but even then when he stopped it kept me awake and I was just anxious as hell).

He was born all OK and healthy, so if that helps nothing went wrong.

Get some exercise, keep yourself occupied as much as you can to keep your mind off things.

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Britannah · 04/08/2020 22:16

I’m in your shoes now. Just gone 15 weeks and still very very anxious, it’s natural I think after something so traumatic. I get these odd moments when I have a huge pang of fear and I have to work hard to shift it...one thing I keep in the front of my mind is that the odds are in our favour now. That has really helped. I would steer clear of certain threads on Mumsnet and threads where women are likely to talk about loss as it really roots that fear and magnifies it. I’m determined to not let anxiety ruin this pregnancy (easier said than done!) and hope that once I can feel obvious baby movements things will start to improve. We’ve got this 💕 Sending a big hug from someone who knows exactly how you feel xxx