Stories after 2 early miscarriages - I really need to hear other people’s stories 😭😭😭

[Nannon145]

I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks in May and I am currently going through my 2nd miscarriage at 4 weeks + 5 days and can’t help but think what is wrong with me?? 😭😭😭

I dealt with the first one because I thought it can be quite normal to have 1 but now I’ve had 2 it’s got me worrying that something is wrong with me and I’m never gonna get my rainbow baby 💔💔

Please tell me your stories, successful of not. I need to just relate to people who have been through the same thing. It’s killing me 😔

I had two early miscarriages in my first year of ttc. Thought the same as you: there's something wrong with me. Approximately 7% of women will have two in a row. 1-2% will have three in a row.

After that first year, didn't get pregnant until I had ivf 2.5 years into ttc.

I'm now 5 weeks pregnant with an unplanned pregnancy. We dtd once last cycle... go figure!

Dd (from my round of ivf) is nearly 17 months.

Early days, but I'm weirdly relaxed. Que sera, sera!

Sorry to hear what you are going through, I know it’s rough! I had an early miscarriage in April and was totally devastated, I only had one but had the same thoughts about if something was wrong with me.

Unfortunately I read about just how common they are and actually your odds of having a successful pregnancy next actually goes up!

Without having a period in between, I got pregnant again in May and now over 14 weeks!

I hope everything works out for you x

@Nannon145 I had a very similar situation to you. Came off the pill (had been on it for 20 years) and conceived the first cycle we tried. Miscarried at 5+4. Tried again the next cycle, conceived. Miscarried again at 4+4. Tried again the next cycle, conceived and now 12 weeks.

I thought I was miscarrying this time again at 5 weeks and had an early scan which showed I have a subseptate uterus. I don’t think that’s why I had two early losses. I think early miscarriages are incredibly common but people don’t talk about them. I felt like there was something wrong with me too, it’s awful. I’ve never felt anxiety like it. I was so so hard on myself. Most pregnancies do seem to end that way tho, sometimes before people even know they’re pregnant.

Try not to google too much and try to relax (all things I definitely didn’t do!). Conceiving twice shows you’re ovulating and your partner is fertile too which is really positive. It’ll happen x

Thank you so much for your replies. It’s so nice hearing other people’s stories.
@physicskate I’m so glad you eventually got your rainbow baby ❤️
@Firsttimemama2021 thank you. Congrats on your pregnancy. I really hope I get a successful pregnancy soon too.
@Muriel84 thank you for your story. I’ve never felt anxiety like it either. I honestly thought when I found out this time, that it was gonna be successful because I thought no chance I’ll be unlucky 2 times. And here I am. Absolutely distraught!

Sorry to hear about your losses.

I had my daughter at 32 weeks in 2015 - thankfully she is now a healthy 5yo.

I had a missed miscarriage in 2018, finally requiring surgery at 12 weeks to remove the baby (baby died at 6ish weeks).

Then another early miscarriage in 2019 - about 5 weeks ish.

We tried mostly each month between 2017 and 2020.

I’m now 23 weeks pregnant with a baby boy. I thought it would never happen. I’d made my peace with it. But it did. I’m very anxious in this pregnancy, reaching various milestones. But the doctor said even after 2 miscarriages, the next pregnancy should go well.

Best wishes to you.

Hi @Nannon145 !! Sorry to hear about your MCs I don’t have my own happy ending just yet having suffered 3 early MCs. I’m currently 4+1 but I am panicking already as my breast tenderness is subsiding and my temperature was low when I woke this morning. No bleeding at the mo so I’m trying to stay positive but it’s hard!

I did start the process of recurrent MC investigations but my gynae appointment was cancelled on 06/04 just as lockdown hit . Haven’t heard from them with a re-arranged appointment unfortunately. I did manage to get a blood test in which came back as everything being at normal levels (except one result but was described as ‘low significance’ - whatever that means!)

Sorry for the doom and gloom but I do have some success stories! My sister was TTC for around 2 years and suffered a MC at around 11 weeks. 5 months later she fell pregnant again and my beautiful niece was born in Feb 2019. A very similar situation happened with my cousin. She was TTC for around 2 years and suffered a MC and fell pregnant around 4 months later. She now has a bubbly baby boy who just turned 7 months. One of my close friends already has a two year old but suffered an ectopic pregnancy in December 2019 so had to have one of her tubes removed. She is currently 7 months pregnant and everything is looking good!!

I know how hard it is the stay positive but it really does help. I’m very bad at taking my own advice as I am a born worrier but my sister and cousin are convinced that’s what helped them with their second successful pregnancy!

I also really like to read about success stories so hopefully contributions to this thread keep coming in!

My third pregnancy after 2 MC's is now 13 years old.

So sorry to hear of your losses.
I had two early miscarriages before going onto have a healthy third pregnancy.
I was devastated after the second one thinking that it wasn't going to happen for me. I attended the early pregnancy unit and they said they used to investigate after a second miscarriage but don't any more as it's so common. That offered me a little comfort, to know that it wasn't that unusual and there was a good chance I'd go onto have a healthy pregnancy.

It is so reassuring hearing other people’s stories, I really hope others continue to tell their stories.
It makes me feel like I’m not alone amongst all of this

So sorry to hear about your losses, and the losses of those on this thread. I had three early miscarriages, 2011, 2013 and 2015 before DS, who is now 4. I’ve got PCOS which I think might have contributed.

I hope everything works out for you, OP

I had two early miscarriages. After 5 years of trying and worrying, we had our DD naturally. A year later - one more miscarriage.
She is 18 years old now....and probably about to fly the nest. Don’t give up hope. It’s desperate whilst going through it - but all the more precious when it goes right.Xx

@Nannon145 so sorry you’re going through this - it’s utter rubbish. I had two MCs last year, one in March at 8 weeks and one in July at 10 weeks (which was a blighted ovum). I was ok after the first but the second took me longer to come to terms with, both physically and mentally. Also took us a while to start TTC again - while part of me desperately wanted to be pregnant again, another part was really scared of losing another pregnancy, especially as doctors won’t investigate unless there have been 3 consecutive MCs. Happily, it was a case of third time lucky and we fell pregnant again as soon as we started trying in November. I am now 38 weeks with our little girl.

Two consecutive MCs is sadly really common and not anything to worry about (according to my doctor - easier said than done though!!) Just make sure you give yourself time to recover properly and you’ll know when the time is right to start trying again.

Just thought I’d give you all an update, I’ve had this new today 🥰 I’m excited that I’ve got pregnant again so soon after the last miscarriage but still very very very apprehensive.

Oh congratulations :)

I kind of felt happy with the third one because I knew either way we'd get somewhere. Either I'd get a baby out of it or we'd get referred to recurrent miscarriage clinic. We got DS2 who is lovely so I was glad about that :)

We know the cause of ours though - DH has a translocated chromosome. We don't know if DS2 has it. He has a 50/50 chance apparently but we weren't allowed to get him tested.

Yes, I feel the same! Obviously praying that we get a sticky baby but knowing if we don’t, we get to have tests and hopefully answers it’s making me feel more at ease this time