Feeling Alone

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I have just found out I’m 6 weeks pregnant.

My partner (31years) and I (26 years) started trying a few months ago as we found out he had a low sperm count. Every time I had a period since trying I was gutted as I began to believe we would never have our own children. Until a few days ago where I had a positive pregnancy test.

I thought I would be excited to have a baby as it’s something that I wanted growing up, but since finding out I’ve had increased anxiety and I haven’t felt excited. My partner is over the moon, but I don’t feel the same even when I saw the positive test.

I feel like I am the only person who hasn’t been excited to find out they are pregnant. I should feel happy and excited for the future, but every time I think about being pregnant or having a baby, I begin to feel really low and terrified.

I have had anxiety in the past and counselling helped, but I cannot figure out why I am feeling like this especially so early on in the pregnancy. My partner is super supportive and I talk to him but I can’t shake this.

I would love to hear from people about similar experiences and if anything they did helped. I’m scared that if this continues I’ll end up not wanting our baby at all.

I wish this was a more positive post but I am hoping some people can help me find my feet.

I get the same - if you suffer with anxiety then ofcourse your going to feel anxious as that is what anxiety does finds something else to be worried about ! You are good enough for your baby - yes it’s bound to be scary because you’ve never experienced this before and you don’t know what to expect but embrace it and enjoy it and fuck anxiety !

This happened to me last year. I was 26 when I had my daughter as well. I think part of it is that 26 is seen as really young these days, only a few of my friends had babies so I felt a bit like everyone would see me as a 'teenage' mum!

I was also terrified that I had made this huge life changing step and what if it all goes wrong, what if I can't do it, what if it is all too much?

Anyway, I think some of it was first trimester hormones as I turned a corner around 16 weeks & started to fe a bit more excited & optimistic.

I still had the odd moment in my pregnancy when I thought OH SHIT but as soon as she was born, all the cliches came true and I absolutely cannot imagine life without her now 🥰

Be kind to yourself, you dont need to do much for the first 12 weeks bar take folic acid & make your booking in appointment (they usually book you in for about 10ish weeks). Just lie on the sofa, eat nice food, watch box sets & remind yourself what you are feeling is normal.

It is a big change & you're very hormonal, it would be odd if you weren't daunted in a way!

Congrats and feel free to ping me a DM if you want to chat

Me and SH we're actively trying and when we got our BFP, this was literally our faces .... 😐 I then went and made dinner and nothing was discussed!
I expected to be crying with joy and running into my DH's arms and it just didn't happen like that! I didn't get excited about being pregnant until my 20 week scan (I too suffer with anxiety).
It's very strange how you react and I never expected to react the way I did!
Currently 32 weeks and so excited now (albeit slightly terrified) to meet my lil dude! 💙
You'll be a fab mommy and daddy! Just give it time to sink in 💐💐

DH not SH! 🤦🏻‍♀️

Wow, thank you all so much!

All of your posts have lifted me and I feel so much better. I am going to refer back to these whenever I feel down or anxious again.

I am so happy that I am not the only one :)

I cannot thank you all enough

I am pregnant and I have felt what you are describing at times. Finding out you're pregnant is huge and I think when you are prone to having anxiety you can feel deflated and anxious about big changes. I really felt that way. Not everyone feels excited straight away, it takes time to adjust to the idea. Also, crazy things are happening with your hormones in early pregnancy. Having the 12 week scan was a turning point for me and being able to tell people really helped and I'm very excited now.

I felt totally the same as you! I felt really down and the fact that people always seem so excited to find out they are pregnant made it worse.
I am almost 15 weeks now and I’ve completely changed, I actually think hormones were playing a huge part to make me feel miserable. The 12 week scan and being able to tell people were a huge turning point for me. Good luck and you will be fine x