6 weeks- what’s normal?

[pinacollama]

After over 2 and a half years of trying, which has included surgery with a surprise endometriosis diagnosis, multiple fertility appointments and being placed on the (long) waiting list for IVF, we found out 2 weeks ago that I’m pregnant. So I’m about 6 weeks. We are too terrified that something is going to go wrong to really talk about it, it’s a very strange feeling. I’m so anxious when I do feel a possible symptom, in case it’s a sign of something wrong, and anxious when I’m not feeling any symptoms. I’m waking in the night once or twice to go to the loo, which is new for me, and I have slightly tender breasts. I’m also getting pretty tired but that could just be because of the waking in the night and not getting back to sleep. I had some light cramping for the last couple of weeks but that’s mostly stopped, apart from the odd twinge. Otherwise, I feel normal. Should I be feeling nausea by now? Or anything more?

I’ve finally plucked up the courage to do a self-referral to the midwife today, and we’re considering going for an early scan around 8 weeks, but I’m anxious about booking that in case it tempts fate.

Basically, I’m a nervous anxious wreck and I guess I’m just hoping for some reassurance!

It all varies so widely. At 6 weeks I was already admitted into hospital with severe sickness. However, I did have a scan at 6 weeks and could hear a heartbeat and see a little tiny baby outline, so maybe that would provide some reassurance?

Snap! We were trying over 2 years, had tests, 1 surgery and had been added to the IVF waiting list. I'm 6 weeks pregnant today!

We also haven't really talked about it as we're so worried it will go wrong. I barely have any symptoms, light cramping, very occasional nausea that doesn't last long, slightly sore breasts and tiredness. But nothing extreme like others seem to report. I've read that the 6/7 week mark is often where symptoms kick in but also that its perfectley normal to barely have any and have a healthy pregnancy.

We've got an early scan booked next week as I'm struggling with my anxiety and can't wait until the 12 week mark.

I'm exactly the same too about being scared to do anything pg related in case it tempts fate! I'm hoping if we get good news at the scan I'll be able to relax more. We haven't told anyone about the pregnancy (except medical professionals) but if it goes well next week I might tell my best friend just so it feels more real.

I'm 6 weeks and 4 days and my symptoms are the same as yours. I wake up twice to go to the loo in the night, my breasts are a bit tender, and I feel a bit cranky but again that could be down to the disturbed sleep as much as pregnancy. I feel a bit off in the morning until I have breakfast but then I feel pretty much as normal after that. I've lost a few pounds from not drinking and snacking over the last few weeks but otherwise I look much the same as I've always done. I had similar symptoms in my first pregnancy too and have a healthy child who's about to start school now.

Congratulations on your pregnancy. It is normal to feel nervous at the best of times but it's hardly surprisingly you do considering everything you've been through to conceive this child.

Congratulations, such amazing news 😊 it’s lovely to hear happy stories at this time.

I would suggest just trying to relax and enjoy.

What makes you want an early scan?

I felt totally normally with my pregnancies in the early days bar an occasional weird mental taste in my mouth

Thank you everyone for your replies, it’s good to hear from people at a similar stage, it’s all incredibly daunting! I’ve spoken to my
GP today about something slightly unrelated but linked to my endo, and she wants to refer me for an early scan to rule out any complications. I’m pretty nervous about it to be honest.

@LottieDot wow, our stories match completely! Are you finding anything helpful to distract you? We went to the seaside this weekend for a long weekend which was lovely and did the trick, but now I’m home the anxiety has started again. Have you spoken to the IVF clinic yet? I didn’t know what to do...I’m scared of something going wrong and then being cancelled off the IVF list and being in a worse place than when we started.

@pinacollama nice to speak to someone in the same position! I told the clinic but we had a telephone appt scheduled for tomorrow so I wanted them to know before then so they could use our appt slot for another couple. I have booked a private scan for next Monday when I'll hopefully be 7 weeks, I find its helping my anxiety having a shorter wait period.

I've been doing jigsaws, binging netflix and going on the occasional walk to keep distracted but not sure its working as I spend too much time googling! Im struggling to concentrate at work too.
When is your EDD?