My pregnancy still doesn't feel real

[AlwaysBelieve19]

Hey everyone , why do I still feel like my pregnancy is not real that I'm dreaming or I'm just going to be told bad news (God forbid) I'm constantly just overthinking I'm 16weeks and I still feel so overwhelmed especially Bec I see stories that women still have lost their babies during the second trimester which literally terrified me because I thought I passed the worst which was the first trimester but I guess not I'm hoping everything goes well for my 20 week scan I'm praying so hard 🙏🏽❤️

I also think the reason I'm overthinking is because I had a early miscarriage couple months back ... I'm soo happy that I'm pregnant very very happy I just want everything to go well this time 🥰

Can anyone put my mind at ease ???

Congratulations! It's overwhelming isn't it, and I was the same, always checking my kecks when I went to the loo...
He's just turned 21 and it's flown.
It's easy to say try to relax and take it day by day, but do. In a few weeks as you get bigger, it feels more real!
Excited for you

I didn't believe my first pregnancy was real until I felt the baby move properly around 23 weeks and then again until I got a bump at 28 weeks!

My first arrived at just over 37 weeks so I didn't really feel it took that long.

My second however, felt interminable. And he was still born a few weeks early!!

You really need to separate having an early loss and a second trimester loss. Of course I don’t blame you for worrying, it’s a nerve wrecking time but have you had any symptoms or is your pregnancy classed as high risk to warrant this worry? If not, it might be worth speaking to your midwife about your anxiety. You might find that everything is ok at 20 weeks but then you’re worrying for the rest of the pregnancy which is just not a good place for you to be. Worth having a chat with someone

Thank you all for your replies @Greenbks no my pregnancy is not high risk and I will definitely tell my midwife about my anxiety hopefully she can refer me to someone to talk to I do have support from family and especially my partner but I don't want to be a constant nag

Congratulations OP! I’m 36 weeks & I still can’t believe it’s real. I’ve also had a couple of losses (chemical pregnancy & ruptured ectopic) so I feel like I struggle to let myself feel comfortable. I’ve had a completely healthy & straightforward pregnancy so no reason to feel this way apart from general anxiety. Don’t let it spoil the duration of your pregnancy, what will be will be 💗

I think around 16 weeks is a tricky time because for most people the first trimester symptoms have passed, you can't feel the baby move yet and you don't have many antenatal appointments. It's quite normal to not feel that pregnant and it is a nervous wait for the 20 week scan.

Is your area still doing the 16 week appointments? My midwife was able to hear the heartbeat at my 16 week appointment which really helped settle some of my anxieties, especially as we had been in a bad car accident a few days earlier and it was a tricky gestation to get reassurance in A&E - they didn't scan because it wasn't an early pregnancy any more and I hadn't felt any movements to use reduced movements as an indicator. No pain or bleeding should be fine isn't reassuraning! Tangent over.... I'm now 38 weeks and all seems fine.

My baby is 6 weeks old and to be honest I feel like the last 11 months have been a dream haha.

I know how you feel. I had quite a horrific MMC discovered at my 12 week scan with my first. After months and months of waiting to be able to try, and then a few months trying, I had my BFP which quickly turned into a CP.
Following the CP I got pregnant again and I am currently turning 9 weeks tomorrow, however I, too, am absolutely paranoid at every pain and twinge and "feeling". Constantly checking for blood, all the time knowing that the first loss didn't even have a bleed.

It feels never ending. Second reassurance scan on Friday though, so fingers crossed.

You are certainly not alone in your worry. I feel like I just want to get through the first trimester and be okay, but then I remind myself of all the other things that can go wrong and just want to wrap myself up in a blanket for the next 30 years!

I'm so happy that I'm not the only one worrying about my pregnancy and baby we are just mums and we want the best for our little ones @User43210 I pray your pregnancy and baby is healthy and you will go to full term ❣️❣️❣️

Also yes I had a midwife appointment at 15 weeks and I heard baby's heartbeat which was amazing

Thanks @AlwaysBelieve19 I have my fingers crossed for you, too!