Week 5 heavy bleed. Very worried father!

[ARD1983]

Hi all. I'm new to this site but in need of advice and support! My wife and I have a beautiful baby girl born of IVF. We were so lucky! After the first egg transfer, my wife fell pregnant and all went very well. We had two embryos left and decided to start the process all over again as we would love to have two children.

The transplant happened a few weeks ago and as instructed by our clinic, we tested on Monday 27th July. We were overjoyed; a positive result.

Fast forward five days later (Friday 31st June) and my wife and I were in floods of tears. In the afternoon, my wife started to notice what she described as "period pain cramps'. She then began bleeding. The bleeding continued for around twelve hours and she ended up filling two pads. My wife also noticed "bits" in her blood; we have prepared ourselves for the worse-case scenario.

My wife described her blood as being bright; similar to that of a period.
The bleeding stopped around twelve hours later but sticky, brown discharge remains. The cramping (which my wife claims was never unbearable or severe) has also stopped. As of yet, there is no more heavy blood loss.

Whatever happens, we are blessed to have a beautiful daughter who has just turned eighteen months.

Has this happened to anyone else out there? Did it all end well?
We are ringing the clinic Monday morning. The seven-week scan is due on the 18th August.

Many thanks,
Adam.

Didn't want to read and run but from my previous Baby threads, lots of people have bleeds in pregnancy.

I'm not sure on quantity etc. Implantation bleeding happens too. 🤞🏼

I work in early pregnancy. Unfortunately it’s impossible to say what could have happened, some people have heavy bleeding and then have a viable pregnancy others have light bleeding and have miscarried so a scan is the only way to know. The earliest they can see anything on scan is around 6 weeks so if you phone the early pregnancy unit they should book her in for that point and scan her. Earlier than that the other way to assess if a pregnancy is viable is doing serial HCG levels, blood tests to check if the hormone is rising correctly or not. Fingers crossed for a good outcome for you.

Thanks for the reply. I’m keeping everything crossed but prepared for the worst

It could be a miscarriage. I probably used more pads and had cramps for longer, but everyone experiences them differently.

I do hope it’s not, though- some women have bleeds and their pregnancies go on and it’s all fine.

Not much advice but I'm keeping everything crossed and wishing you both all the best 🤞

Hi, I hope everything will be okay for you and your wife.

I had bleeding in both my pregnancies. It would be every time my period was due for the first three months and it was basically spotting, just regular blood. The first time it happened in both pregnancies I was taken in for an early scan and they confirmed everything was

I wouldn’t wait for your regular scan. It might be something else which should be looked into.

Thanks for the replies everyone. Heavy bleeding lasted about six hours, then the brown discharge remained pretty much all day yesterday (noticeable when wiping after visiting the loo). No more bleeding, cramping or discharge this morning. Interestingly, my wife has started to feel sick again. I don’t know what to expect but I’m keeping everything crossed.

For anyone reading this who might be in a similar situation, we had an early scan this morning and to our delight, a tiny heartbeat was detected! My wife has only just gone six weeks, but the scan confirmed that all seems to be well :-) we are so relieved! The early bleed has certainly made me edgy about the next nine months but for the moment, we’re breathing some heavy sighs of relief! It’s been the most difficult week of my life but onwards and upwards!

Great news! Thank you for the update. Fingers crossed for you both

@ARD1983 Great news

Great news indeed! I’m in an almost identical situation and have a scan this afternoon. Terrified but glad to hear there is some hope.

Great news - it's a worrying time but so pleased you had a good result

Thanks all :-) @GCPH how did you get on? Fingers crossed it was good news X

Thank you @ARD1983 unfortunately it wasn’t good news for me this time. It’s very tough even though it was early days. But I am still really glad it was good news for you :-)

Great news!

FWIW it could be a subchorionic haematoma. I had one of these (pretty big) an, after 4 miscarriages we assumed the worst after the first incredibly heavy bleed. Started grieving all over again and had scan booked for a few days later to check for retained tissue as the bleeding stopped very suddenly. Lo and behold a lovely little baby with a heartbeat! I couldn't believe it and had never heard of a baby surviving such an enormous bleeds (huge clots too that blew my mind). I'm now 25 weeks pregnant and all is well and bleed cleared up by about 14 weeks. I had about 3 big bleeds between 7 and 14 weeks and then had brown light bleeding for about a week before it dissipated, and was given the all clearas a scan at around 16 weeks (IIRC).
I had lots of bed rest (also 'pelvic rest' which was tricky with pregnancy hormones raging ) and avoided any exercise until I had the all clear.

Best of luck for the rest of your pregnancy, it is a harrowing time when you've experienced loss and infertility.

@GCPH I'm so very, very sorry to hear of your bad news :-( Thoughts are with you and I hope you are doing well. Best of luck for the future and please let me know how you're getting on X

@Frazzlerock I must've spent the best part of 48 hours researching what could've caused the bleed! Feel like I'm some sort of subchorionic haematoma nerd after all the reading I did. We're having another scan next week (the wife will be over seven weeks) so we're keeping our fingers crossed that everything continues to be okay. The six-week scan was so hard to see because the baba is still so tiny but the nurse definitely saw a little flicker! The early bleed has definitely dampened the joy of our second pregnancy journey though. My wife and I are almost expecting something bad to happen again :-( This morning, she had a funny feeling in her tummy, we started to panic but turns out she just needed a big poop (TMI - sorry!). Roll on the twelve week scan...

Wow. It’s almost two years ago I posted this. Crazy. The little ‘un has just turned one and is absolutely crazy, is the best possible way. Life definitely finds a way. Anyways, I’m off to deal with screaming baby No. 2. Keeping everything crossed for anyone who was in a similar situation to mine x