Pregnant after 2 miscarriages anxiety and symptom loss

[Mococo1]

Hi all

Just out there looking for tips on anxiety/reassurance

I am currently 5.5 weeks pregnant with my 3rd pregnancy

I have had 2 previous miscarriages- one in April and one in June- I've fallen pregnant pretty quickly again now in July. Previous miscarriages were EMC (one at 6.5 weeks and the other at 5)

I am extremely anxious with this pregnancy- having had suffered two early miscarriages (I knew as lines got fainter and symptoms disappeared overnight) I'm struggling with this pregnancy.

I had some symptoms at 4.5 weeks (aching boobs and nausea) which now I don't have- could this be another miscarriage?

I had a scan on Tuesday from my local EPU which put me approx at 5.5weeks - purely because a gestational sac and yolk sac have been seen but I'm still scared as I have zero symptoms of pregnancy! I can't POAS everyday as it won't possibly tell me anymore so I'm wondering if anyone else has had this experience and how did you cope?? I'm just constantly worried 24/7

I have another scan in two weeks time to see if there is any progression but the fact I had symptoms and they've now gone scared me to death x

Hi @Mococo1 I'm so sorry for your losses. I know the anxiety all too well as have had 3 MMC and 1 MC over the last 4 years.
Our last MMC was on 3rd January this year and we decided we couldn't possibly survive another loss so decided to put a stop to having another baby.
Then by some stroke of luck I fell pregnant only 2 or 3 months later. I'd even taken the MAP around ovulation just in case, as we were far too terrified to go through it all again. But somehow this little one clung on and I'm now 23 weeks pregnant.
I honestly don't know how we got through the first few months. It was a terrifying time but I was well looked after and had lots of scans (I'd also developed a haematoma so had gigantic bleeds to make things even more scary!). I think all you can do is wait it out and go for as many scans as you can, private if possible.
Its incredibly hard. I fully expected this one to fail. We'd even started grieving again after the first massive bleed so it has been a total headfuck. Even now we are nervous, but less so now I'm getting lots of movement. But as far as we are concerned, pregnancy is a very uncertain time and we still have no idea how things will go even though baby is doing really well.
I think you need to brace yourself for a long road and make sure you talk to your partner/friends/midwife/GP.

I so hope all is well for you for this little one x

Hi @Mococo1 I'm so sorry for your losses, I am in a similar position to you I have had 2 miscarriages and a CP in 18 months and currently 6+2 with hopefully my 1st baby. I understand the anxiety you are feeling my last miscarriage was with twins and from the minute I got the positive result I was a nervous wreck preparing for the worst and had scans every week from around 5 weeks. I have tried so hard this time (I got my 1st pos @10 DPO) to see every day I'm still pregnant with no spotting/bleeding as a positive and fill my time with things other than focusing on my body (super hard) I've been reading again, taking my niece and nephew out lots more and going for walks with my friends. I've made the decision not to have early scans this time around I feel they increase my anxiety to the point Im not sure I can face the situation again and I know that I could have a scan with a heartbeat and a few hours later that precious little heartbeat stop. I've still not contacted the midwives feel like I'm tempting fate, if I get to 8 weeks with no spotting/bleeding/major cramps I'll consider a scan and register with the midwives then. Suffering losses takes away the joy in pregnancy as we will always expect the worst I'm holding on to the hope that the odds need to swing in my favour at some point and hoping this is that point 🙏. I'm not in anyway saying I have got this under control as up until last week I was still POAS even though I know this means nothing as I was still getting positives 3 months after surgical removal of my previous pregnancy and I am checking the toilet paper regularly (this has improved from not every time I pee to maybe every other time 🤦🏽‍♀️) as for symptoms I think this early on I think it's ok for them to come and go and for us to experience a variety of them, my sister had no symptoms at all with my nephew but was so sick and weak with my niece every pregnancy is different sending you lots of love and luck that this pregnancy is successful for you ❤ sorry for the lengthy post just wanted you to know you're not alone and feeling and maybe the methods that are helping me just now to cope with my anxiety could help you ❤ take care xxxx

@Frazzlerock @Josiejo1986 hey ladies

Thank you so much for responding! I'm really sorry to hear about your losses as well and glad I'm not the only one going crazy! I hope you both has successful pregnancies this time round!

Although the first scan was positive I guess my biggest worry is that I've lost all of my symptoms ☹️ so there's no actual reassurance until I have my next scan in two weeks time unless my symptoms pick up and I'm well aware that a mc can happen all over again and the symptom loss was my key indicator (hilarious as I've finally reached 3+ on CB with this pregnancy but barely any symptoms compared to before when my levels were much lower)

DH is super laid back but has suggested we get a private one inbetween but I'm just too terrified I guess if we go in and there is no heartbeat. But at the same time I rather it be over and done with sooner rather than later you know!

I didn't want to refer either due to jinxing it but EPU insisted I did refer so that they can chat to them about the scans I'm having already and pass over notes.

I'm thinking il just wait it out till 7weeks and if I have no symptoms pick up next week then I can mentally prepare myself to not see anything on the 11th. Thank you so much for responding ladies