This might be a long one, sorry for a potential rant but it's playing on my mind and I'm really upset, this rift with my mum is ruining the end of my pregnancy and any time left I have just with my partner.
Since I found out I was pregnant my mum started being a little OTT with messaging, I remember getting exhausted mentally from it back in February. Since then it has just gone from bad to worse, I remember in April I didnt reply for over a whole 24 hour period (I refuse to be a slave to my phone, and the way I see it, it is there for my convenience to reply when I want, not the convenience of everyone else) and she asked me if I was angry with her? (like we are 12 years old). I told her she shouldn't expect a reply within hours, I am her adult daughter and that I was busy and doing things and couldn't she wait for me to get back to her without asking questions. It wasn't anything other than 'Hi how are you?' that she had sent me. Well she had a huff for quite a few days during which point I was very low and anxious, she has a knack of making me feel guilty. In the end my partner rang her up and said that I was anxious and crying a lot and could she speak to me because I didn't want to be in bad terms. I enjoyed the phone call and expressed I would rather communicate that way than via FB messenger which I find annoying, I don't really like the 'seen at' or 'online' function. Everything went straight back to normal and has been since. I have felt suffocated and harassed by the messages since. I am currently trying to buy a house and finish off my MA course for the year and she insists on banal and pointless messages to which she expects a reply instantly. I last saw her a few weeks ago and she said 'oh I do worry if I don't hear from you for a few hours'(??!!). To put this into perspective, I've had a really healthy and low risk pregnancy, have continued to work hard at my degree and get everything ready for the baby and been very positive even in the height of the pandemic. I explained again that phone calls every few days would be nicer than messages (sometimes I get five a day which are the usual 'how are you' type messages and don't require an urgent reply). I don't understand - I haven't lived with ehr for five years, I am a really independent, self-sufficient adult who can handle finances and the such like very well. It's frustrating. I asked her what she worries about and she says she doesn't know, it's just her anxiety.
Anyway, I was 36+5 yesterday and I had the usual morning text yesterday, I felt a bit rough so said I'm not feeling like messaging today, I have a headache so I'm going to turn my phone off for the day. I like to do this sometimes for peace and quiet. She then text my partner in the evening to say she was worried about me because I seem so low at the end of the pregnancy?! She has just made up an issue in her head that is not there. Apart from her constant messaging, I couldn't be happier. I got quite upset by this because she just didn't take my word for it that I was ok - it was a pregnancy headache for goodness sake. I told her she needed to give me some peace, quiet and space at the end of my pregnancy and I was trying to enjoy some time with my partner. I wasn't horrible but I was honest, which has now made me feel like shit. I would have rather had this conversation over the phone or face to face than bloody messenger as usual.
Not to mention the fact that she tries to give me advice on every little thing pregnancy related and is obsessed with me letting her know I am going into labour - but those are other issues. I feel like I am going mad. Can anyone else relate or had these over-anxious mums?
I feel down now that I might have the baby any minute and we aren't on talking terms. 
I know she loves me but her anxiety and constant need for attention has ruined the last few weeks of my first pregnancy.