How “careful” are you being with COVID restrictions while pregnant?

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I’m trying to gage whether I’m being over anxious. A quick history:
My son died of a heart condition at 5 1/2 months old last March. In his life he managed to survive swine flu and para flu 1&2 at the same time. Safe to say I think it’s affected me. He caught them in hospital.
So I decided to get pregnant again during a pandemic (obviously joking) and am currently 29 weeks pregnant.
I’ve been careful. Shielding and barely leaving the house careful. I won’t go to a pub, a restaurant - I’ve asked my partner not to and he agrees he won’t. I’ve been to m&s once since March and I hated it. Everyone is fine with me being as anxious as I am. I’m not worried about it. I have counselling.
We’re going on holiday to a caravan with family. Family are being careful too. We won’t go out and will only meet up really outside for dog walks and such. I wasn’t anxious until I found out my cousin has been going out to restaurants and my mum has too.
So, am I being “cautious” or overly cautious? How cautious is everyone else being?
Thank you for any responses x

I’m doing living as “normal” now at 29 weeks, mixture of working from home and office. I’ve been to a pub for lunch, and a cafe. Happy to visit my local shops, we live in a village and feel completely safe, I don’t go into the city anyway so that’s no different for me.
Seeing friends and family or I’d go insane! You just need to do what’s right for you.

I don't think you are being overly cautious at all.

Nothing has really changed with the pandemic other than the government trying to revive the economy so I'm surprised people are as relaxed as they are.

We are not going to bars and restaurants or shops as it is just not worth the risk. We are seeing family but in the garden and keeping our distance and no touching.

I guess people need to weigh up what kind of risk they want to take and I'm not prepared to take that risk yet

I find it really reassuring that there are so many people on here who are being as cautious as me and my DP are. Sometimes we think we're being a bit over anxious and mad!

We are not eating out or getting takeaways, cleaning food when it comes in the house, and am not going in other peoples gardens. However we have met up with friends and family outdoors and recently my mum came to stay for a week after she self isolated at her home for 10 days (which she did as she knows how cautious we're being and agreed to do it so I'd feel comfortable with her staying). We are also doing the weekly shopping in the shop rather than online (although that's more to do with not being able to get a slot).

I'm 34 weeks and feel we're being sensible as I am at risk of early labour. If I were to catch corona now and go into labour then my DP wouldnt be allowed at hospital and midwives would be in full PPE, which sounds pretty scary and in my opinion not worth any kind of risk.

I do not think you're being overly anxious.

I meant not going in other peoples houses. We are going in their gardens!

I’m 34 weeks, I’ve only left the house since jan to go to the hospital (I had debilitating morning sickness!).

Not been to any shops. Dh working from home, children only been in garden (no big fuss to them). Shopping delivered. Kit seen anyone, not even from a distance.

I’ve had a horrendous pregnancy full of problems. Consultants have been full of doom from day dot re covid. Also at a risk of premature labour, am due to have a c section.

I’m also 40 and obese. So we are taking no risks at all.

Sorry about your loss. We both are cautious, I've only seen people I know are cautious too. Shopping all online, both working from home, non pubs. I'm more at ease now when I see very positive stats in our area and recently we've been more out and about (popped into local coop, went out to the city center that was packed, went to boots). I think it's fine to be cautious as long as your are okay with it mentally.

I'm sorry for your loss.
We are keeping with being cautious. In part because I'm trying to maintain good mental health and for me that means taking precautions.
Since March I have left the house for midwife appointments, the odd stroll in the local area (I didn't like these mostly because I like greenery when walking rather than covid so I stopped) and we met 2 friends for a picnic and a walk in the rain. We trust them to be careful and we chose a secluded hill which was extra quiet given the weather!!
We have had my sister over for a distanced coffee when she dropped off some groceries, my parents for tea and cake when they dropped off baby stuff and we have just had my partners parents to stay for the weekend as they were able to isolate prior to coming.
We are happy with our quiet life at the moment but did want to get a visit in with each set of parents whilst the risk was low in case of potential resurgence of the virus in the community. I'm taking each day and week as it comes and assessing what feels right for me.

I think you are being very sensible. There will be plenty more holidays in the future. The RCOG guidelines are a useful source of up to date evidence.

So very sorry for your loss.

Your caution is understandable. I'm 19 + 4 in and central Leicester. I very rarely leave the house and try to get groceries delivered.

I feel it's too dangerous out there right now and the one time I went out yesterday, some idiot was arguing with a security guard outside Iceland about face masks. No one wants to wear them, but just do it, was what I wanted to say.

Luckily, my husband is awesome and is one of the very few people on the planet who's company I don't get bored with, so not seeing people hasn't really troubled me.

Honestly, I think you should do exactly what you feel like doing. You dont need to worry about being overly cautious at all. Do what you are comfortable doing. I am 26 weeks pregnant and I do what I am comfortable doing, which doesn't involve seeing people and the food shop, but that's me. I am not you. You keep doing what you are doing and take more risks when you feel comfortable. Anyone who isnt happy with that can bugger off

Sorry, that was meant to read 'does involve seeing people and the food shop', not 'doesnt'

My DH works in public health. He keeps reminding me that the risks are simply not the same for everyone. We live in an area where in our two very large villages, only 45 people have tested positive for Covid since March. Obviously more than that will have had it, but we are exceptionally unlikely to get it from people we're interacting with who have also stayed local. I have been cautious but have been to a couple of restaurants etc. What's your mum's local area like?

Very sorry for your loss.

For myself, I'm very lax about restrictions. I'm currently 29 weeks and have been going to the shops, meeting people etc throughout and I went to the gym on Monday.