Please help me :(

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So, this morning I found out I was pregnant. I am in shock as thought we had completely missed my fertile window this month. So so happy, but haven't stopped crying.

In Feb I had a MC at 7 weeks. All together we have been trying for 18mnths.

The thing is, I went out last night and celebrated my 30th birthday. I was smoking so so much (have given up for 12mkntjs but thought sod it, 1 night will be OK) , and drinking to the extent I can't even tell you. I've read lots of women that have done the same and had successful pregnancies. But whenever I read it, I just think "yeah but I REALLY drank a lot" anything and everything, including shots galore. I can't snt remember a lot of the night and in all honesty, I'm still drunk now (I am not proud).

I'm so so scared that because of this I am now going to cause another miscarriage or harm to my baby and feel so selfish. But this ttc malarky has been really hard, and I thought 1 night out won't hurt, I really thought we were just going to have another negative month.

I dont think you're sharing blood with your baby at this stage, its living off a yolk sac. So you may be drunk but your baby isn't. Dont stress, keep yourself calm and look after yourself.

Dont panic! I agree @Nottherealslimshady, you don't have a blood link yet (as I understand it). I think you're panicking worse because you're still a bit tipsy and you can't think straight atm (no judgement at all, we have all been there). Just stay hydrated and have a lie in if you can. You had no idea you were pregnant and so you haven't done anything wrong. I think the main time that drinking begins to be harmful is around 5 weeks pg from what I've read.
Fingers crossed for you. If anything bad does happen (I think it's unlikely, chances are everything will be fine!!) it's because sadly it's a random chance that sometimes pregnancies don't work out in the early stages, not cos you've done anything wrong xx

Ps and sorry to hear about your MC in feb xx

My story is very similar! I think I was drunk the night we conceived then the night I had a positive pregnancy test I was also shitfaced.
She is almost 4 now and amazing. Nothing wrong with her at all, apart from normal 3 year old weirdness!
As PP said, the first 6 ish weeks, the baby is floating about with a yolk sac to feed from until it establishes an umbilical cord to you.
Best of luck with your pregnancy!

In the first five weeks of my pregnancy (before I found out) I smoked like a chimney, had a hen party, a wedding, And New Year’s. Christmas would also have been days before I conceived. I am now 30 weeks pregnant was a healthy baby.

Obviously not ideal and I wouldn’t have done those things if I had known.

Honestly try not to worry. I conceived in April last year. Also that April I went to two weddings in one weekend, a hen weekend and had a boozy trip to France the following weekend. I was smoking and drinking at all of them. The day after I got home from France I found out I was pregnant. My almost 7 month old son is now happily bouncing about in his jumperoo and he is the smiliest, healthiest wee guy. Don't focus on what you have done, focus on doing all you can to have a healthy and happy pregnancy. Congratulations!

If you are still tipsy and have a hangover this will be making your anxiety much much worse today. Try and have a relaxing bath, relax on the sofa and eat some rich carbs, then have a nap. You will feel after some
Food and sleep xx

Agree with the others (also been there), please don't beat yourself up. As a pp said stay hydrated (true even if someone wasn't pg) and get some rest and definitely stay away from Dr Google he's had me buried more times than I care to remember.

I know someone who partied so hard one New Year they had a '3 day hangover' which actually turned out to be a pregnancy. The doctor said they hear this so much from newly pregnant women so it's quite common and unlikely to do any damage. The hangover baby is a healthy 10 year old. Congratulations!

I drank a fair amount before all my pregnancies (currently pregnant with the third. With the first I was 17 and Fran almost every night, and was a smoker. Baby will be fine. I found out I was pregnant with my second on mother's day, hungover 🤦

Thank you so much ladies. This is just what I needed to hear. I should be so excited but it just doesn't feel real. I've already stuffed loads of fruit, water and vitamins in my mouth. Just pray that this one sticks, and I can be like the rest of you and reasure future mummies to be that everything will be OK...

❤️

I found out I was pregnant on a Sunday, on the Friday I drank 3 bottles of wine 🙈. I'm now 16 weeks and so far all fine 😊 try not to worry.

Fruit and water are good but what you really need is a family size bag of salt and vinegar crisps and a can of cold full fat fizzy pop!
Hope it all goes well for you

You’ll be fine. As above, baby us living off yolk sac and there’s no placenta yet.

I got so badly hammered at a work Christmas party when I was pregnant with my first as we’d be trying for a year and I was positive that month it wasn’t going to happen. He’s fine!