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gardengnome23 · 23/07/2020 10:54

Not sure if this is the right topic for this thread but wondered if anyone could help!
DS is 1, at some point we would like to have another baby (not for a while yet!) but I'm shit scared.
With DS I was textbook up until 30 weeks where his growth slowed. I was fobbed off being told it was fine etc then my blood pressure went up. I was put on medication and then induced. I was told categorically I didn't have preeclampsia and the only reason for induction (I was 37 weeks) was because he was measuring small. Anyway birth went fine and he was very healthy all be it very tiny and we were out of hospital the same day.
On my notes it says that I had serve preeclampsia and my placenta basically was failing. None of this was discussed with me and I'm scared that if I get pregnant again we will have the same scenario. I want to talk through
A) what the hell happened and why was I told conflicting things.
B) I was treated appallingly throughout my antenatal care and want reassurance
C) if I have another what is the likelihood this will happen again.

Who would I contact to go through these things with. As I say we are in no rush but it would be good to understand our choices for the future as it could affect housing situations etc.

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BabyB19 · 23/07/2020 11:37

That's terrible and no wonder offputting for when you're thinking of having your second! Have you tried PALS?

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BeMorePacific · 23/07/2020 11:49

You should contact the hospital for a debrief with them. Explain exactly how you feel. That is not acceptable practice, I would be telling them to ensure it doesn’t happen again.
So sorry you weren’t listened to/communicated to better at the time x

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gardengnome23 · 23/07/2020 11:49

@BabyB19 no we never did it. I think I was so thankful that DS was here and healthy that I just accepted it and moved on. It's only recently that it's come back to 'haunt' me.
We will contact them though in the next few weeks and see what is said

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BabyB19 · 23/07/2020 11:51

Still worth contacting them to air your concerns isn't it they may be able to advise you further on who to speak to etc try not to let it ruin your next experience as all pregnancies and births are different aren't they so you shouldn't miss out on having a second because of previous experience ❤️

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gardengnome23 · 23/07/2020 12:05

Thanks all.
It was a disaster from start to finish with DS. It really shook my confidence to ever have another!
I will contact the hospital and PALS and go from there

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KLM19 · 23/07/2020 14:00

I could have written this story myself!! I had the same happen bar the fact I ended up with late onset Eclampsia after I had my son also.. awful time... but! I am currently 35+4 with my second and because of the previous complications I have been monitored sooo closely this time even during the pandemic and everything being cut!! I've had a consultant appointment every 2 weeks growth scans every 2 weeks from 20 weeks. I've had the community midwife every week I have not had the hospital also... lots of appointments so be prepared for that!! But can not fault the way I have been looked after this time at all...