Ivf pregnancy is sex safe?

[BuffyFanForever]

Hi All, after spending 5 years trying and eventually doing ivf several time’s I finally got my bfp. I’m 6 weeks atm and wanted to check if it was safe to have sex. I’ve googled like crazy and it always says it’s safe unless it isn’t which was unhelpful! I don’t want to have any risk at all but would like to know. Clinic told me no baths, swimming lifting etc but not for how long. Would ask them this question but they never respond to emails or answer the phone really, plus it’s quite embarrassing... any one know where I could find out if it’s safe?

Hi BuffyFanForever. I'm about the same 6+5 today. No sex since I started the pessaries for the frozen transfer. For my first IVF pregnancy we had sex around this time, no problems. However, I'm older now and had a threatened miscarriage with my first IVF pregnancy around 18 weeks after sex so this time I'm cautious. Also it's a bit icky with the pessary mess. I'm going to ask that question tomorrow at the viability scan. I read one site that said wait until 12 weeks but others say only wait until the heart beat is detected. Whatever happens, when we start again it will be gentle and with lots of lube!

Ah that sounds scary @ChatWithMe! Hope your scan goes well. We have an early scan on Saturday. You are right the pessaries are icky! To be honest I feel so sick I’m not sure why I’m even asking but just want to make sure everything is fine. Will probably just wait...

Thanks BuffyFanForever. Good luck for Saturday. And yes sex sounds so unappealing while I feel nauseous all day long! Ugh.

Not had IVF but I'm 7 weeks and I haven't been having sex. I had a chemical pregnancy the month before this pregnancy. We got the BFP then one Monday morning I had cramps and thought a MC was coming. We had sex that night and the next day I started to miscarry in the afternoon.

Probably just bad coincidence of timing but this time round I'm not risking it because I would hate to blame it on that if anything went wrong this time around. I think it comes down to how would you feel if you lost the baby, would you constantly wonder if that was the reason and regret it.

Good luck and fingers crossed for your little one!!

Have you asked your consultant for their advice? That’s a better bet than Dr Google or us randoms from the internet!

Might be worth checking your clinic fact sheet, too. It was covered on the one I got from mine (although we didn’t get as far as a positive test).

I'm 9 weeks with IVF twins and I'm abstaining for a bit longer - probably until 12 weeks. I see so many posts from people who are 4 weeks pregnant and have sex and then post panicked threads about bleeding/spotting afterwards that I just can't deal with the added anxiousness and stress after 7 previous losses - we've waited this long I can wait longer - plus I'm knackered and feel huge already and have a 4 year old who still doesn't sleep through the night - sex is a distant memory 🤣