When will I be to announce my pregnancy to friends

[AlwaysBelieve19]

Hey ladies I already announced my pregnancy to my immediate family but now I'm really excited to tell friends and other family members I'm 15 weeks and couple days and I have already had my antenatal appointment and they heard baby's heart beat and everything seems to be fine ... I am having my 20 week scan near the end of August .. I did suffer a miscarriage in January so I've been so emotional about when to announce everything but since my midwife assured me that everything is going fine I'm ready

Today me and my partner was with friends and I was soo excited to just tell them right there and then but my partner was like no I need to wait until the 20 weeks scan which made my excitement go down the drain my other friend is pregnant she is a week ahead and she announced it to everyone and to hear everyone just wishing her congratulations and to be so happy for makes me upset that no one knows about mine i feel left out what should I do

I told my mom dad and younger brother on Mother's Day I was 8 weeks.
Told work at 9 weeks as I work in a high risk environment
Told my 2 best friends and 10 weeks.
Told my other siblings and wider family at 20 weeks.
There's no right time to tell anyone. Just when you feel ready and comfortable to do so.

This might come across as sounding rude, but you sound a bit childish by saying you feel left out by them not congratulating you! If you were the other girl, then someone else suddenly announced THEIR pregnancy, don't you think that YOU would feel a bit let down by the other girl? Sorry, it all seems rather juvenile!

I've had 3 MC's, all prior to 12 weeks, so never 'announced' to any friends that early. Its a personal thing. Could you organise a luncehon/picnic/coffee morning and 'announce' then if its important to you? Then its YOUR luncheon/picnic and not overshadowed by the other girl?

@Elouera my friend announced way before me since she was early in her pregnancy so no I wouldn't we all knew she was pregnant from the beginning and I kept mine a secret as I believed it was to early but I totally understand that it does seem a bit childish but I totally don't mean it in any way

@Elouera and I'm sorry to hear about your previous miscarriages maybe I'm going to just wait until 20 weeks as that's when I feel comfortable

@AlwaysBelieve19- You can only go by when YOU feel comfortable telling others. I misunderstood that the friend a week ahead only announced recently. Its certainly a personal thing. Some want to announce early, others not. Best of luck though

I’m 19 weeks and I haven’t told friends yet (most of my family don’t even know)
I was going to wait until 20 weeks but the longer I’ve left it, the more I like no one knowing. I think I might start mentioning it around 24/25 weeks but only when I see them, not in a big Facebook announcement kind of way. I’ve had 3 mmc and 2 friends who had bad news at 20 week scans, so I feel a bit nervous saying anything earlier.

It's completely up to you. It's such a personal thing. I told my best friends slightly before as I know I would tell them whatever happened, then told my other friends after 12 weeks. But I'm nearly 31 weeks and we never announced on social media so some people still don't know! Xx

Omg @bee222 that is what I'm terrified of I just want everything to go well what kind of news did they get if you don't mind me asking as I've tried to search up what bad news could you get at the20 week scan Bec I'm just a bit weird like that but couldn't find any

It's a very personal choice, no rules, just what feels right. Sorry you have been through a loss, be reassured your midwife tells you all is well. Discuss it with your partner and share your happy news. Look for a local doula to support your birth if you want extra support 😀

Hi @AlwaysBelieve19 - to give you a bit of info, the 20 week scan checks for foetal abnormalities so looks at the structure of baby's organs and body, but also screens for genetic conditions like Downs Syndrome, Edward's Syndrome, Patau. It is very unlikely your baby will be affected by any of these things but that is what the scan is for.

It is completely your choice when you tell others about your pregnancy and what you tell them. I'm TTC and some close people even know about that!

@TheDaydreamBelievers thank you soo much for giving me some info about it. I suffer with anxiety and everything I worry about I just want my rainbow baby that's all I just pray everything will be good for me . I saw a post that said a women had to terminate at her 20 week scan and I just started crying so much 🙏🏽

That your right when I'm comfortable I should announce it which I think I should wait until after my 20 week scan just to make sure everything is still okay

I'm wishing you luck on your TTC journey ❣️

Absolutely @AlwaysBelieve19 - try not to let your anxieties run away with you. It is super unlikely that anything will go wrong now and the further into a pregnancy you get the less likely anything is wrong. However, if you're most comfortable waiting until 20 week scan that's great.

Your friends will be so excited to hear you'll have a baby around the same time! Really nice to have that to bond you.

If you want to tell your friends go ahead and tell them. I am currently 20 weeks and have my NHS scan tomorrow but my numb too big to hide now so just had to tell people!! Also I previously had a miscarriage at 11 weeks. I had only told my mum and one friend but ended up having to explain to a couple more close friends and work colleagues (asi went on sick for 3 weeks and they were worried about me). I did find having the support of close friends at an awful time did help. I would say if you want to tell friends tell them and then maybe wider people when your husband feels he wants others to know.

I agree it's a personal choice and very much depends on your history

I've had 5 miscarriages up to 12 weeks so I wouldn't normally say anything to anyone other than my parents before then. But then I also know people who had bad news at 16-20 weeks so this time I'll probably wait longer

I'm 9 weeks with twins and have a VERY noticeable bump already so physically it's very hard to hide - thank god I'm working from
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