Has anyone successfully done it alone

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Following another post in I made in relationships, I am pregnant and with 2nd dc have had to make decision to end a long term abusive relationship. Only discovered pregnancy last week. Have a dd who is 6. Dad has played a role in her life but due to abusive nature hasn't always been 100 percent hands on/helpful (sometimes absent, drug/alcohol use). Have had great help from family friends but can't help but think this time around people may be less willing to help given the rubbish situation iv put myself in (they are all well aware of his abusive nature). It's not that I expect help from anyone I just wanted to know if there are any of you out there who have a found yourself pregnant and single and made it through with supportive friends/family? Apart from gp and woman's aid I haven't spoken to a soul about my situation.

Hello,
Whilst I'm not in your situation, I have several friends who are single mothers, with multiple children. They learn to look after number 1 (yourself!) as a happy mother means happy children.
People won't offer too much help unless you properly share your issues & and what you've been through. Everyone is so busy with their own lives, that you must put your hand up when you need help. Your friends and family won't ignore the request!
Learn to do things that you enjoy and learn to cut the father out. You're young and can make many new & improved changes to your life to make yourself happy x

Yes - and you can too. It is tough going at times but it isn’t impossible. The best thing to do is ask for help when you need it and don’t feel bad for doing so. The people around you won’t want to intrude but also aren’t mind readers, so if you need help with something or a few hours to yourself then don’t be afraid to ask! x

Yes, completely alone as I was working overseas so didn't have friends of more than two years, and my parents didn't want me back in the UK as a single parent. What I didn't have was another child, so I was able to focus on work until the last day, and kind of blank out the "what ifs". I found it fine, but I hadn't done it before and didn't know what to expect. My brother came out when DD was six weeks old, which was lovely and DD went to nursery at two months and I went back to work. I think planning and routines were absolutely key.

Thank you everyone for the replies! I am fortunate enough to have decent job I have been in since I left school so will have full pay for 6 months then half then on to maternity so at least I don't have to fret in that sense. One minute i feel like I can and will achieve anything if I try hard enough the next I'm in a heap of tears feeling like the world is ending. I suppose that's hormones too. A lot of the time my dd has been alive it has been mostly me and her together on our own so am used to being at home alone with a child by myself. Very lucky to have helpful family and friends which has helped me back at work since she was 1. I haven't been able to speak to anyone in real life about the situation yet so have a lot in my head.