6 weeks pregnant - so paranoid!

[KO045]

So we got a BFP last week (amazing news and both DH and I are delighted) but i am so paranoid until we see the midwife about anything going wrong, Iv been getting period like cramps but from what I'm reading that's normal.

We got confirmation of the positive result on Friday last week from the GP, called my in-laws to confirm the news and my MIL made a comment along the lines of "its all positive for now". I cant get that comment out my head, mentioned to my DH that id appreciate her not saying that even though i know her family had history of miscarriages but he doesn't seem to get my side of things and that she wasn't being cruel. Am I just being overly sensitive?

Congratulations! In my last pregnancy, when we told my MIL she said all the usual congratulations bits but caveated it with 'it's still very early though' (numerous times), which it was but I felt like it just didn't need saying - we were all very aware of how early it was and what could go wrong and I was anxious enough already - and it did annoy me.

You probably are being quite sensitive, as was I, but I totally get it - it's an anxious enough time as it is without people saying things like that outrightly to you and vocalising your worries.

As it turns out, my last pregnancy ended in a missed miscarriage, I'm now six weeks pregnant again and this time we were in reverse - my MIL was thrilled for us and really positive and I was the one being overly tentative and cautious.

Try not to dwell on it too much, I'm sure she wouldn't have meant to hurt you and is probably anxious also, hoping that everything goes well for you and her grandchild.

Best of luck with your pregnancy - hope the wait until the 12 week scan flies by for you xx

@SkyBlue20 thank you! and congratulations. I suppose as its our first, I thought she might keep her comments to herself lol. Just hope she doesnt say anything when we go visit this weekend, I'm a bit emotional as it is without something silly setting me off.

Hope yours all goes well xx

If she makes another comment politely and calmy say

"Absolutely its very early but we are trying to think positively because I feel quite anxious and worried so trying not to dwell on it being early. "

Im 5 weeks with our first! Congratulations!

@kent1991 your so right! i just have a horrible habit of letting my face show my feelings first HAHA!!

aw congratulations :) x

Me too! Cant totally understand how you feel! :)
My mum was actually the same as a close family friend has recently had a bad experience at her first scan which I am obviously trying not to think about.
I am sure they mean well but

Congratulations 🙂 Embrace your lovely news, chances are everything will be fine. I found I started relaxing more and more each day and then by the 12 week scan I really started enjoying it. It is an anxious time and the first trimester does feel quite fragile but you’ll be fine.

@Foreverbaffled thank you so much! i needed to read that i think. To be honest I think once i get out my own head the weeks will fly in especially if i try to keep busy. x

@KO045 I found this website really helpful too:
datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer

Cramping is totally normal by the well, just baby burrowing in. Distraction definitely helps but the risk of anything going wrong literally decreases each day :)