Need positivity

[Flie59]

Been TTC#2, my period is late and Ì am pretty sure I am pregnant. Before I test, I need to sort my head out :(.

Just after DTD on ovulation day I had a major panic about whether this was the right decision. I spent the first week hoping it hadn't worked and in a constant state of panic. In my head I was OK-ish, I could function, but physically I was having bad heart palpitations and headaches (this happens with my anxiety).

Now I feel fine and actually want to be pregnant but I am convinced that week of panic has damaged the baby and I have ruined it all before I have even started. I am so scared :(. I had some brown implantation spotting too which I never did with DD1, and am thinking it's because of all the stress it's struggling to implant/might not grow properly/ end in MC/ have a premature and ill baby...

In my head I can't see an outcome where I end up with a lovely, healthy DC2. Any reassurance would be very welcome. I want to be happy if I see a BFP and not let anxiety ruin this too. Thank you for reading!

Hi @Flie59, your stress at this stage won't have affected the baby if you are pregnant

Hi,

I second what’s been said, stress won’t affect anything at this stage. I watched a documentary about couples trying for IVF a few weeks ago, and a fertility specialist said that in his opinion, a bit of stress is good when ttc. As back in our hunter gatherer times, when humans were to DTD their stress levels were high as while they were doing it they were at risk of being killed or something or other. It was an interested viewpoint.

Try not to worry. I hope everything works out well for you.

Thank you both for your kind words.@Nov19 that's really interesting actually and makes me feel better