Please help me!!!

[pufflingmuffin]

Name changed for this.

Please tell me I'm imagining this!! I think I can see a faint line so enhanced the pic and definitely something there. Please tell me it's a false alarm! I have 4 and my husband had the snip a year ago. I've not been with anyone else so bound to be a false alarm yes????

What is the most accurate test available?

My period is all over the place anyway so can't tell anything from that.

Pleas help me. I'm freaking out.

It would seem you are indeed pregnant however if you are you’ve found out early so at least it gives you time to think on things.

Hopefully with tomorrow’s test you will feel like you have at least got a more affirmative answer.

Try not to panic @pufflingmuffin, as others have mentioned you still have time to look at your options. I think it would be sensible to book in with your GP and explain the unexpected pregnancy and discuss options with them (discussion could be done over the phone so your partner is also involved). You could also request to have your blood levels tested for confirmation. Have you got support from family and friends if you do go ahead with the pregnancy? Are the older kids old enough to help out? I'm sure you and DH will figure out what is right for you, and us net mummers are here for you too if you need us xx

I see the lines... be interesting to see what the test says today as I assume yesterdays wasn’t with first morning wee? X

Bizarrely this morning's FRER showed next to nothing! Maybe the faintest of lines but nothing that showed up on camera.

I feel back to square one!

On top of that, husband has been absolutely awful last night and not speaking to me this morning!

Apparently I'm responsible for not making him go to the follow up. I should have said no to sex without him having had the test and he's fuming about the whole thing.

It matters not that I could be going through premature menopause. It's not an issue that this could be an indication of a tumour or that I am in fact pregnant and will be the person to assume responsibility for whatever choice I have to make.

I feel like crying but I'm absolutely fuming with his immature behaviour. He's fucking 43! Apparently the world still revolves around him. Dick.

Anyway, best course of action seems to be to buy a couple more FRER and test again tomorrow and Monday and call the doctor Monday morning for advice either way.

Once again, I'm very appreciative of all of you who've take the time to respond. Keeping this to myself is incredibly hard. Thank you from the bottom of my heart x

Ah I’m sorry OP that he’s being like that! It obviously was his responsibility to go back for the follow up- more so than yours!
Anyway yes I think your right maybe do another one over next couple days and deffo ring the doc on Monday just for your own piece of mind so you know exactly what’s going on!
Perhaps it was a chemical and didn’t implant correctly? It doesn’t seem right that it’s lighter today so hopefully for you that’s a good sign. Best of luck I’m sure it will all work out eventually and your OH will feel very stupid x

I agree with PP that it could possibly indicate a CP. he is being a dick and I'm not at all on his side but try and give eachother a wide berth on this. He will also be thinking he has to assume responsibility whether it be financial or some other way, it's doesn't excuse his behaviour but where you has us to vent with it's likely he is trying to wrap his head around this too. That said he definitely needs telling in no uncertain terms that it's not acceptable to put the blame on you, you both knew he hadn't been for follow up and both had sex anyway. Hopefully this is just a very harsh scare into making him go and get that followed up. Your plan is definitely the best course of action isn't it, couple more tests and call GP on Monday, even if they are negative I would still go and see what else they advise you xx

First of all I’m sorry that this mornings test has left you still feeling in limbo and unsure as to what is going on.

Secondly is your husband not an adult, an adult responsible for his own appointments. By his logic right now you could literally just say meh whatever happens happens not bother making a doctor appointment and in some 9 months time you’ll either have a baby, be going through the menopause, or have a tumour or any number of other things. So you can not bother and just wait to find out, and when none of those things is the outcome you wanted or expected, you then get to blame your husband for NOT making you go to the doctor.

He went to the trouble of choosing to have a vasectomy, then actually went through with the vasectomy, all of which is great. However the follow up appointments are also his responsibility, he is NOT a child, and it’s not like you could have done those follow ups on his behalf. It was up to him to actually attend the appointments. If all vasectomies worked first time, there wouldn’t be a need for the follow up appointments in the first place. None of this is your fault, it was his responsibility to see the procedure through right to the very end and he failed to do that. As a result you are pregnant, which has far more effecting consequences for you than it will ever have for him. Frankly OP he should be apologising to you!!!

@pufflingmuffin any update OP? Hope you are okay xx

Hi! I have continued to test every day since with the Early response and nothing at all! Not even a faint line! I'm none the wiser as to what happened!

Thankfully husband saw a bit of sense and apologised. Said he acted out of shock and fear which is fair enough. He is also now booked for a sample test to check the vasectomy worked!

I'm awaiting a doctors appointment as it's not a "priority" at the moment.

What a scary few days though!

Hi OP that's good news that there's no stronger lines appearing! And great that you both have made contact about being checked out! X

I hope everything worked out the way you wanted it to OP x